Feeling alone

[James8]

It's been a while since I posted on here, it helped alot being able to talk about my problems and finally giving myself a voice, after a bit I realised I didn't need it to much thank you to everyone who helped then, I need help again.

In my life I work a standard 8 to 5 job, and it's stressful, some days I wish I don't even wanna go in or wanna call sick but I love working to much, my weekend feel like the end before they begin and before I know it I'm back at work, till yesterday I decided to take some time off to let my mind calm down from the stress of working so much, but it was the worst mistake I've made, today was the first day I truly felt alone, not having any friends, no one to text or talk to no one to call cause their busy, and I understand everyone has a life but I didn't realise how much I need to work, it's not healthy for my mental health to work so much but when I stop working I go even lower, I feel more alone and more depressed then I did working, I've tried so hard to make conversations with people or try stuff but in the end I'm still, alone, I never thought I'd become addicted to work till I stopped, I don't wanna work my whole life I wanna be able to travel and see different things but now the fear of not working cause ill feel like this makes me scared, it makes me scared that I'll be alone forever if I don't work, if I don't do something to keep my mind busy I'll be alone and I get stuck in this cycle of thinking by the end I feel numb again. 

This post is just a rant to get it off my chest thank you all for giving me a place to speak and put my thoughts somewhere when I have no one to go to 

[Bluebird11]

I completely understand this feeling as I have been where you are but currently I am on the other side of the fence. I’m in a lucky position where I don’t have to work as much but suddenly feel like I have lost my purpose. I have also recently lost my whole friendship group. I’m feeling a little lost and invisible to be honest with you. I feel like I’m floating through life unnoticed and just simply un-thought about. It’s a horrible feeling. I’m working on myself, trying to dig deep and get to know myself better so I can grow and learn from these feelings. Hopefully the more we lean into the loneliness, the more we learn about ourselves and love ourselves more. Being happy in your own company is a true blessing that I want to get better at. I think this should be your focus too 🙂 

[MJG017]

@James8welcome back to the forums.  I know that pain of loneliness hitting you when you want to call or talk to someone but there is no one to do it with.  I would always just do things to keep me distracted from those feelings.  For me the distractions weren't work, but just anything to keep my mind occupied, just doing anything to avoid thinking about the loneliness.  So it sounds like you know that continuing to work so much cannot protect you forever and that you need to start to work on the loneliness.  Far, far easier said than done i know!

I have found it very helpful just to talk to people here and some support and men's groups.  It gives me a feeling of being connected to some people and encourages me to try and keep building more.  Rather than just thinking there's no point and trying to find more distractions.  That only works for so long and then the lows suddenly start getting really low and take longer and longer to get out of.

I now you said your post was just a rant to get it off your chest, but continue to reach out, if not here then somewhere else.  Maybe a local mens group or something.  I can take time and it's not easy but as I keep chipping away at it I look back even a month or 2 and see progress.  So I hope you can do the same for yourself James.  You're not alone here.

[Tilz]

Hi @James8  how are you? we are here for you. thats true work sometimes make our mind busy. but too much of that will cause us weak.