@Faith-and-Hope this is just me feeling vindictive but how would MIL go if you 'dumped' all the washing on her to iron - your in the sh*t anyway so you may as well get something out of it!
That probably is not helpful at all - just a thought coming completely from frustration on your behalf 
You are right - MIL is not your concern - you cannot change her behaviours but you know deep down the man you married is still in there somewhere and that is what you are holding on to. That takes incredible resilience, courage and belief. You are amazing Hon
@Former-Member Sorry I disappeared so quickly this morning - I was not in a good way at all and couldn't think or 'talk' anymore. I was becoming way too overwhelmed by everything and so totally lost again. Thankyou for taking the time though - it does help sometimes to talk it through - even if it is just circling around the edges!
Oh @Faith-and-Hope you poor thing, try to do what you need to do it sounds like you can't please everyone at the moment so just work on what you need right now if you can try
Oh @Faith-and-Hope my friend
that is soo hard xx, we are here for you my friend , talk away
Mr shaz always corrects what i do and the other day , he said it was good living at mum`s because she did everything !!!!!!!!
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