‎03-07-2020 07:35 PM
‎03-07-2020 07:35 PM
I've been subjected to comments like that @Appleblossom
Current Unemployment is very Under-Stated - it's possibly 10% to 15% (not 8% official Rate).
So No, every Australian cannot have a job - there is not a job for them all to have.
Yes, I've had similar experiences with Therapists (Psychologists).
They have demonstrated how well they did not listen - by forgetting all the details (especially crucial details).
Even Psychologists generally admit (to me at least) - that CBT is not appropriate for Trauma Work, or for Trauma Survivors.
10 sessions would not even scratch the surface - unless it's just for a short-term crisis (some extra stability).
I've heard that more than 13 years of continuous Therapy for Long-Term (Complex) Trauma is Common or necessary.
I guess it depends on the Approach (Therapy Method) - & how well we connect with the Therapist/ Psychologist.
Good Connection (Rapport) & Trust = More Effective.
Lack of Empathy/ Shaky Connection = Not Effective (even confidence-damaging).
Adge
‎03-07-2020 07:52 PM
‎03-07-2020 07:52 PM
Its good to be honest and open and be able to just talk about things as they are.
Thanks.
It means a lot to me.
It really helps to have perspective.
Maybe I will be able to shake bad experience off.
I've felt so strongly driven to ... model how to make the system work ... we also have to face facts about the broken bits.
Yes to the lack of real jobs. The casualisation of the workforce has been a slow eroding reality and it makes it hard for the young ones, as my son was discussing this evening.
I hope Centrelink works out. Security makes a difference. I hope you find things you enjoy as an early retirement maybe. I had one uncle retire at 50 and spend a lot of time on his boat.
You and I have been on both sides of the services.
‎03-07-2020 08:39 PM
‎03-07-2020 08:39 PM
I can certainly understand why you would want another cleaner @Appleblossom What they are saying is not okay and you don't need to listen to that
Hugs and hugs and hugs to you Apple
‎03-07-2020 08:54 PM
‎03-07-2020 08:54 PM
Thanks and hugs.
The NDIS is a work in progress. It can be overwhelming as at first there are a lot of people and different supports thrown at you and it takes a while to figure what will and wont work. I have super high expectations of myself to get along with all comers, learning that it is alright to find a better fit is new for me.
The focus on choice and control for the client is a good one and is intended I believe to weed out the things that dont work.
Hope you are doing alright?
‎03-07-2020 08:56 PM
‎03-07-2020 08:56 PM
Yes No-one should have to listen to that negative judgmental talk @Appleblossom Neither you, nor I.
Interesting that you mention an early Retirement - it's actually been in the back of my mind, for several years.
In the face of mounting physical health problems & chronic illness, it might even be necessary.
My Dad semi-retired at age 55, though he still did some Coaching (being a Science Teacher).
Superannuation Claimable age has now been Raised to 60 y.o.- the Age Pension has now been raised to close to 70 y.o (for anyone my age).
So that poses some major challenges for any plans of early retirement - virtually all of my male relatives were gone, long before age 70.
Adge
‎03-07-2020 08:59 PM
‎03-07-2020 08:59 PM
It is alright to find the fit for yourself @Appleblossom We can't always get on with everyone ...for many reasons - but you have the right under any system to choose those that you fit better with - that will inevitably help you in both body and mind.
I am okay - really glad to be on holidays now - it has been one massive term.
Hi @Adge
‎03-07-2020 09:10 PM
‎03-07-2020 09:10 PM
Drink Deep from the Holiday Well @Zoe7
Melbourne has a lot of lockdown atm. I am fine either way.
Yes they put up the age to 70, which makes it tough but i Hope not impossible.
A neighbour has been doing it on newstart with vollie work at Vinnies to meet "obligations". She retired a couple years ago and can stop obligation in a couple months ...
I like the idea of keeping some work going through retirement age ... for interest ... pennies and dignity ... but with Covid and all ....just thinking small and looking after myself for a while. Maybe I dont need to keep stretching so much any more?? idk
Some people hate retirement.
‎04-07-2020 11:06 AM
‎04-07-2020 11:06 AM
Hi and good morning and thanks for your responses here @Appleblossom @Zoe7 @Adge @Maggie @Snowie @Shaz51 and sorry if I missed anyone.
Just catching up on the interesting conversation and observations here.
Struggling a bit putting my shattered self back together here today so I'm not up to responding individually atm sorry. Huge night last night with my brother spending nearly 2 hours talking about his experiences, memory and feelings about some very traumatic periods in my/our life and how I tell my story in ways that he finds totally invalidate his. His memories and experiences are so different from my own and I'm bouncing from stunned to trying to integrate it all and sad/guilty/ashamed for what others have been through as a result of my behaviours and diagnoses. And feeling like I simply have to concede that other peoples' memories are more likely to be correct than mine despite the fact that what was true for me at the time WAS true for me even when I was in psychosis, mania, PTSD triggered and reeling from traumatic events. ........... more I could say but will leave it that many big feelings and new chunks of memory are happening overnight and today.
‎04-07-2020 11:42 AM
‎04-07-2020 11:42 AM
‎04-07-2020 11:45 AM
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