A Life of Trauma and Tragedy (Possibly Triggering Content)

[Emelia8]

I am so sorry to hear of the death of one of your friends children @Clawde 

There is no easy way to deal with the death of a loved one.

I am sure that your friend understands that there really is nothing much anyone can say to ease the pain of loss.  It takes time to work through the stages of grief in their own way.  

Perhaps you could just say how terribly sorry you are to learn of the death of their child, and give them a hug.

I think that means as much as anything else at such a time.  And then maybe let them know that if they need anything, you are there.

I agree with you that asking RUOK in this circumstance is perhaps not appropriate. Because you know they arent. How could they be?  But in months to come, it would not hurt to ask that question as they come to terms  with their loss.

Not sure if any of this helps.  I know you are a sensitive and kindly soul and want to say and do the right things for your friend.  But its different for everyone when it comes to loss and grief.  I'm sure you will do the right thing.  As I said, nothing beats a genuine and heartfelt hug, and a shoulder to cry on.

Emelia 💞

[BlueBay]

Hugs lovely @Emelia8  xxxooo

[Clawde]

Thanks @Emelia8  at the end of my pondering time and looking around your advice is frankly 100 percent correct 

kindest regards

@Clawde

[Former-Member]

Sorry to hear that, @Clawde 

I guess, all you can do is, maybe ring them or text message them and say that you're sorry for their loss and mention that you're there if they need support. 
When my mum passed away this year, everyone disappeared, because they must have felt awkward, didn't know what to say, I guess. That was extremely hurtful. I just wanted someone to chat, be there to talk about anything, to distract me from the grief. So, if you mention that you care, I think that would be lovely. Hoping you're ok today. 😊

[Shaz51]

Hello @Former-Member , @Emelia8 , @Clawde , @BlueBay , @Eve7  and hugs 

Finding all a bit hard at the moment xoxo

But sending you all lots of tender hugs my friends 😀❤🥰☕☕

[Eve7]

Lots of love to you @Shaz51 💚

[BlueBay]

Hugs and love your way sis @Shaz51  xxxooo

[Shaz51]

Thank you  my sisters @Eve7 , @BlueBay ❤

[Anastasia]

@Emelia8 👀👂🙏💞

[Eve7]

You are a beautiful kind hearted intelligent woman.

Thank you for being you Lots of love

💖🤗💖🤗💖🤗💖