@ClawdeOh sweety only you can make that choice to forgive or not. I have done some unforgiveable things when I was sick and I know that for many I am the unforgiven. It is something I just have to live with no matter how much I apologise. Be kind to yourself Clawde. So many of us here love you dearly and appreciate your presses under the support buttons. I know I do. I am always here for you. Love peaxxx
There is no one way to handle things. Forgive or move on ... are short answers which may or may not fit your circumstances. Sometimes we need to listen to our feelings. Maybe tears are of the hurt but also may be a form of grief knowing the relationship will not be what you dream of. Let it cleanse you, and I hope you feel better soon. So many of us have broken families. We cannot control how our relatives (great tip @Former-Member ) treat us. I have been devastated by my sister, but eventually learning to live life on my terms and be the best I can be, without worrying about her any more. I was looking at photos in my album, and I no longer feel pangs of sadness of anger. She is just a silly sister who I cared about a lot in the past and is not in my life. Boy it took 20 years to get over it, tho.
I had a lovely visitor and a lovely student today as well as my support wokr. I am glad my spt wkr and this forum have kept me alive, as this new friend and I are hatching good music and community plans. We are a good fit musically and with skills. You never know what will happen around the corner.
Be kind to you, heal your hurt. rather than be exposed to someone who might continue to hurt you, if thats the right thing for you to. Dont let it eat you up too much. With my sister it was the fact that I could not believe that she did not care that kept me being upset. Sure it is better if families can get along but I am not the one who closed doors. It seems the same with you. I kept my heart open for 20 years. Now I say the door is closed, but not locked, ( I cant make the final word) but it is she who will have to come and do the knocking and trying.
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SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.
SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.