Despair due to relationship breakdown

[john74]

Hi @tyme l m not ok .We spoke last night and both sort of expressed our feelings and she at least accepted we have to be in the house together but this morning she barely spoke and left for work so my head is a mess just wish it would end. 

[lavenderhaze]

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[tyme]

I'm sorry to hear @john74 ,

I can feel how distressing this can be. Good on you for talking to her about how you have been feeling. Do you think you can work through some of these feelings with her?

[john74]

Hi @lavenderhaze it's just getting worse no communication she is never home l just feel worthless and want to end it

[tyme]

You are so right @john74 . Not knowing is the hardest. You don't know where you stand. 

Do you think detailing all your thoughts via journalling will help? Just a place to vent and let it out?

Please know you can call our drop-in line Mon-Fri 10am-8pm AEDT 1800 187 263

You deserve to be heard.

[tyme]

@john74 , How are you travelling?

[john74]

Hi @tyme  l not travelling well at all l need to move out of this awkward living situation it's making me very down and feeling life is just to hard and to much again and l am looking for a way out again. It's so hard to find a house again,  l feel being alone forever it's just too much for me to handle. 

[Jynx]

Hey @john74 sorry to hear about your living situation. Honestly it really does have a HUGE impact on our mental health, cos it means (among other things) we don't have a safe space to retreat to when we need to engage in self-care. 

Add in the housing crisis and cost of living, and it's no wonder you're struggling. Have you looked into housing assistance/crisis housing? Do you have anywhere you could stay even for a couple of nights, like a friend's place? 

If you need to get out ASAP, I have heard of folks who do a bit of a nomad thing by getting jobs as a live-in pet-sitter - i.e. someone might be going on extended holiday for a couple of months, and you can stay at their house for free in exchange for looking after their pets. It's not an ideal solution, and still carries uncertainty, but if it gets you out of a situation that is actively harmful to your mental health then it could be worth considering. 

[john74]

Hi @Jynx l appreciate your advice.  It's just a terrible situation l discussed sharing houses with a person today but now they are not interested.  Unfortunately l trusted my ex partner to easily and only 12 months after my marriage breakdown it just destroyed my hope in anything lts just to much a d l am so scared of the near future although l.am on the lease and entitled to be here is unpleasant. 

[Jynx]

Ahh dang @john74 I'm sorry your potential plans fell through. Yeah it's so rough when we put our trust in people (not to mention our time, energy, compassion, devotion...) and they let us down. 

So is your ex-partner also on the lease? That certainly complicates things hey.