Not sure what to do !!!

[Shaz51]

Thank you @Dimity 

My aunty ( mum's sister ) thinks she should stay in hospital and have ongoing care 

Or to get a carer to come while we are a work for 4 to 6 hours daily during the week 

It is a hard decision  to make and mum listens more to her sister than me 

[BlueBay]

Totally get the guilt feeling my sis @Shaz51 

gosh those very hard decisions we had to make 

I really feel for you Shaz 

love to you xxxxoooo

[Shaz51]

It is soo hard my sister @BlueBay 

And to know that you have been there and I send you lots of hugs xoxo 

[BlueBay]

Here with you all the way @Shaz51 

holding your hand 

just remember- your and mr Shaz health is just as important. Because if you’re not well you can’t look after your mum. 

Hugs 🤗♥️ Xx

[Dimity]

@Shaz51 Well it's a help then if your aunty agrees your mum isn't ready to come home yet.

There's probably paperwork and a special assessment for the right aged care package to get your mum a carer during the day. There seem to be a lot of providers online (like Mable) as well as all the established services, one might be able to help you get it organised. Ì'll dip out at this stage, I don't know enough about it, but I wish you all the very best. 

[Shaz51]

Thank you soo much @Dimity , @BlueBay ❤❤❤

Yes to go ahead with the right decision,  have to make our minds up and that is it xx

Yes our health is soo important too

Seeing the kidney specialist tomorrow  xx

[Dimity]

Hope all goes well with kidney specialist tomoz  @Shaz51 ... trusting you're in good hands... 

[hanami]

Yep indeed @Shaz51 ! It’s a lot to take on. I really hope you can work it out. So hard to see your mum in pain and in the situation but you have to do what’s best for yourself and Mr Shaz too.

❤️

[Shaz51]

Very true @hanami , @Former-Member , @tyme , @TideisTurning 

@Dimity , @BlueBay , @Jacques , @outlander 

Mum and the OT are making a home visit tomorrow afternoon and then going back to the hospital 

@moderator , @hanami , I amm finding it sooo hard to express my needs and thinking of mum's  needs 

[TideisTurning]

It can be really tough @Shaz51. I can find it a lot harder to express or assert my own needs than those a loved one. One thing that really helps me is a reminder (so often echoed by another loved one who is especially caring of me) that me, and my needs are also just as important. I feel like this is especially true when you are a carer or supporting someone. Wishing you whatever strength and courage you may need to speak, and sitting here with you. 💛