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19 Dec 2017 08:26 PM - edited 20 Dec 2017 02:58 PM
19 Dec 2017 08:26 PM - edited 20 Dec 2017 02:58 PM
Re: Falling apart
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I am here, I can read what you are both doing.
Mental health is a journey that no one can predict. A Psychotherapist Called R.D Laing used to say that ..... on a graph.: on the wall : ....normal people have lives that are drawn or graphed that go up and down. People like Schizophrenics who he worked with have far more interesting lives because their lives on a life long graph would be drawn on a slant.
When I first started seeing Mr G, I took him to meet my Psychotherapist, someone I would see because my youngest son was suffering a brain tumour and my Mum is such a bad Mother. When I was going through the beginning of seeing Mr G, even my Psychotherapist, my most trusted 'Mother,' and someone who I LOVE would say to me.....'Are you SURE that this is the one for you? I mean, Mr G is a beautiful lovely highly intelligent man but he's gone to PRISON or he's gotten out of PRISON and he is using DRUGS....I would stare at her blankly and say......he will be fine. He loves me he will quit it all.
And he did.
I think that every situation is very different and if you look deep in your heart......you YOU GET the proper support and the proper SELF CARE..... you will work out your own life.
I certainly didnt get support from my family, Actually not at all. I got support from seeing a therapist.....a GP, a pastor, wherever I worked hard and found support, and either paid for it or worked HARD to get it.....is where I got it. I get self care support from my Silver Chain lady, After a long time of circling each other, we now meditate twice per week.
I have some friends I can tell whatever to. It took a lot of really hard work, they are definately not your usual type of people but I had to work hard and be very positive to have what I've got now.
I still work very hard for what I've got and I know how hard it is, lets do it together ........
This is a picture I drew for my Mum of her dog......
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19 Dec 2017 10:26 PM
19 Dec 2017 10:26 PM
Re: Falling apart
Such a lovely reply @PeppiPatty
The depth of your thoughts and telling of belief and strength especially in self is so very important tome...I am trying very hard to keep on working at this..
thankyou so much..
I wish for you and mr g a happy holiday period..
mohill
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19 Dec 2017 10:56 PM
19 Dec 2017 10:56 PM
Re: Falling apart
Dearest @Former-Member
Thats increible.....I am thinking about you and your situation today and you wrote to me.....
I am glad that I'm easily read. Our lives are not that complicated. We just have a life that people don't get because we don't fit the page.
But @Former-Member.....only do what you feel is right. You have always been intelligent even though your husband etc, have mahybe queried your actions with your son, I feel that you have spent a lot of thought and true integrity.
Thank you agan so much for your compliments....
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19 Dec 2017 11:07 PM
19 Dec 2017 11:07 PM
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20 Dec 2017 09:00 AM
20 Dec 2017 09:00 AM
Re: Falling apart
I did see it but my mind was in other places.
First pdoc was a success.
Been given medication and we have been advised with possible side effects he might be in for a difficult couple of weeks.
I made a suggestion to the meddler.
They took onboard what i said and that turned out good as well.
Huge relief today..
@Faith-and-Hope @PeppiPatty @Shaz51
How are you all feeling?
I have an rdo from work today, so im sitting outside with my coffee and a book.
Had another sleepover with mr...
He was also given sleeping tablets so he took half and has slept all night.
He woke briefly before worried i was leaving without saying goodbye.
However ive reassured him i wont leave yet and put him back to bed.
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20 Dec 2017 11:33 AM
20 Dec 2017 11:33 AM
Re: Falling apart
I didn't think I would be having to go through another year of this last Christmas ...... and with my S2's team it feels in some respects like I have fallen out of the frying pan into the fire.
Usually Inam good at just parking things up and keeping on keeping on ..... but not today .....
Today I am leaking all over the place.
Today I have got my take-away breakfast from the coffee shop, and I am going home to eat it with mr. f&h while he eats porridge no. 2 (breakfast no. 3) like ticking a box ...... going through the rituals of holding this thing together ...... still feeling invalidated and unheard ...... and disconnected.
Tomorrow is another day ..... so I will wade through all these years today ..... prepare for a special dinner with D2 and SIL tonight cos they will be away for Christmas this year ..... and keep moving through preparations for Christmas.
"This too shall pass ..... "
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20 Dec 2017 11:38 AM
20 Dec 2017 11:38 AM
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What a plus.
Keep on writing how you are self caring today.
Even a cup of tea alone in the kitchen is a plus.
When you have the cup of tea: perhaps you can look out the window and focus on say a tree or the soft wind and think of the breeze going past your home. If your mind wanders thats ok.
It's good to hear how you are living your days
YOu are also helping me, I remember how to selfcare by writing to you
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20 Dec 2017 11:43 AM
20 Dec 2017 11:43 AM
Re: Falling apart
Sending you cyber hugs @Faith-and-Hope
I hope you have a lovely dinner tonight and tomorrow is a better day
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20 Dec 2017 11:47 AM
20 Dec 2017 11:47 AM
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Dearest @Faith-and-Hope
My darling darling fellow friend in Western Australia. I am with you while you feel disconnected.
I so dearly wish we can have a cup of tea together. We can think of nothing if you like : I can think friendship and strength when you are feeling sad.
Please sit with me when I'm leaking.......my words are spilling everywhere. Please sit with me and be my friend when I'm feeling sad today too.
We only have a couple of presents......we are getting money after Christmas so all my friends are getting something after Christmas. They can wait.
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20 Dec 2017 12:11 PM
20 Dec 2017 12:11 PM
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Hugs n hugs ....... ❤️
Thank you @Former-Member ..... 😔💕
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