Topic Tuesday // PTSD & Post Traumatic Growth // Tues 20 Feb, 7pm AEDT

[Former-Member]

There is absolutely a danger of that @Phoenix_Rising.  PTG can't be foisted onto someone.  It's something people come to in their own time, gradually, through their own interpretation of what's changed for them.

But it's not a terribly well known concept so I thought it worth flagging as something worth considering.  

[Former-Member]

@Phoenix_Rising you have said it so eloquently. 

[BlueBay]

@CheerBear that makes sense, thanks. 🙂

[Phoenix_Rising]

Hi @BlueBay,

I don't want to speak for @CheerBear, but I'm wondering if she means that we tend to internalise the stories that others tell about us. For example, my previous psychologist told me I was a stupid f*cking borderline who could only ever be contained and managed. Consequently, when I am super struggling, I see myself as a stupid f*cking borderline who can only ever be contained and managed. You see? The story I tell myself is that which I've been told by another. 

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member,

We are at the halfway point so you are still welcome to join in/follow on from here 

[Mee]

I was called a liar by a "therapist" years ago because she said that there's no way I could remember such details of my traumas from such a young age. So she concluded I was making it up. I'd had a gutful of being told I was "making it up" Every time I mentioned something to someone I was "making it up" I guess my traumas were too unbelievable to be believable. All good and well for the therapists, they're not the ones living my life and re-living my horrors. Funny how they could never understand why I was always so angry though.......

[BlueBay]

Yeah @Phoenix_Rising I understand now.  thanks.  Sorry I'm a bit slow and sometimes i need a bit of explaining. 🙂

[Phoenix_Rising]

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@Former-Memberwrote:

Whether altruism really exists is one of my favourite debates @Former-Member!  

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Ooooh let's have that debate one day @Former-Member and @Former-Member...although it sounds like we may all be on the same side. 

[Former-Member]

OOH, that sounds like an idea @Phoenix_Rising 

[Adge]

I don't like that saying either @Phoenix_Rising "What doesn't k...l us makes us stronger" - it makes you worn out & sick, that's what it really does...

I'm okay with Resilient though.

I don't feel Resilient at all, but I take it as a big compliment when my psychologist says that I am...

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