Hi @Rebel welcome and thank you so much for sharing. You touch on some really important points. I do see a theme in low self worth in people navigating within minority groups, I think we have to work a bit harder at keeping our self-compassion levels high. I just want to give you huge props for mentioning "hetero-norm" and "homo-norm". I have been incredibly frustrated at similar, even being on dates and being told I wasn't "butch" enough, and at other times "not femme enough". Can't win sometimes! I am lucky I eventually met my partner and none of these labels or expectations have been placed on either of us but wow, what a journey it is 🙂 Thank you for sharing this and please know our community is here to listen and support you in your experience 
It's unreal to think to be gay was once illegal, very dark times.
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