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12-07-2016 02:50 PM
12-07-2016 02:50 PM
How to help someone when they won't admit they have a problem
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12-07-2016 06:50 PM
12-07-2016 06:50 PM
Re: How to help someone when they won't admit they have a problem
Hi @skrankz
I can understand your concern. Your friend is lucky to have you there for her.
It's so hard to get help for someone who isn't aware or willing to seek help. It's in our nature to want to take action and get the person we care for help. While you did mention you don't get to see her much at the moment, just letting her know that you are concerned and you are there for her is the best thing you can do.
One of our partners @EDV (Eating Disorders Victoria) could be a good place to start. They can offer support and information for you. You can contact them on 1300 550 236.
National Eating Disorders Collaboration have some great resources for families and friends. There's also the Butterfly Foundation
It's likely, as you have flagged, that her disordered eating and weight loss are connected to other matters going on with her life, but I hope the referrals above are a good starting point.
These forums are for 18+, but there's a very similar online community at ReachOut which you might find useful.
Please take care of yourself too - the pressure and stress of worrying about someone can have huge impacts on our own wellbeing too.
All the best.
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12-07-2016 08:01 PM
12-07-2016 08:01 PM
Re: How to help someone when they won't admit they have a problem
Hi i can understand how concerned you are about you friend. Being seventeen is a vulnerable age in many ways. You are still finding your way in the world. I have a seventeen year old grand-daughter, and there have been lots of issues to work through.
Dont underestimate the value of your friendship, even though you dont see her often. A few suggestions for you.
Have you tried sending her a text message, just saying you are thinking about her.
Ask her out for coffee
Does she have an understanding relative, older sister brother, grandma, aunt.
I found taking my grandaughter out and let her talk about what she wanted to talk about eventually she started to open up.
Make sure you look after yourself. Talk to the school counselor or someone you trust.
If your parent are supportive maybe ask her over for a meal or study, maybe stay the night.
I think that you are a wonderful caring friend, and its hard to care for a friend who is obviously in so much imotional pain.
Take care and keep us posted.
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