Where Has My Favourite Person Gone? Understanding Absences in Our Community

[ENKELI]

@ArraDreaming apologies for the delay in my reply, I am only now seeing this thread.

I know how you feel and while I've been told several times that this forum is not for making friends I am finding it hard to cope with the fee of abandonment and lack of closure.

I am constantly worrying how they might be coping and what is happening in their lives. Even now as I write this I am crying. 

I don't contribute as much anymore in case I might develop a relationship with another user and have them leave without notice.

I'm sorry, I'm human and I form attachments. Perhaps this forum is not for me anymore because I can't not care and think about others.

I hope you're doing okay, and that Mrs Arra and your little ones are happy and healthy xoxo 

[Glisten]

@ArraDreaming @ENKELI 

I totally get it. I really do. There are few people who have the ability to see us with absolute clarity.

I’m not saying that they are perfect and sometimes they get it wrong.

I don’t know. Maybe it’s us. Often our own interpretation of what we read is augmented by our emotions at the time.

When I read my 2022 Forum posts, I am stunned to see how much progress I have made since then.

But t have to agree with you @ENKELI when you are at your lowest and you form a bond with that person, it is heartbreaking 💔 to have them suddenly disappear.

It is another loss and more grief on top of what you already have.

There is a definite void that cannot be filled.

Through a curtain of tears, I have to admit, that in my head, I talk to @tonys everyday.

I imagine walking up to the wooden bench that I built for Tones & @Gemma13 and me. It has great view of the sunset and we talk and laugh and they are well and happy together.

G