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April is Autism Awareness. This combined with some recent discussions about how different things under the wide umbrella on Autism, ADHD or AuDHD can impact on daily life I’ve started this thread which features some of these daily challenges.
(I was hoping to have easily shared reels/videos on a FB site where a lot of this information is from. Due to the forums being anonymous, all attempts to share via links have been unsuccessful. I have/am manually typed the information contained within each video.)
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Easily distracted
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RSD
RSD can look like
- people pleaser. “I’ll do it all for you”
- low self esteem “I’m terrible at this, I can’t do anything right”
- avoiding new experiences “if I do it, I’ll embarrass myself”
- perfectionism “it has to be perfect or I’ll disappoint everyone”
- negative self talk “I suck at this, I’m bad at everything”
- receiving no response as negative “they haven’t answered me, what did I do wrong, they must hate me”
- feelings of inferiority “why is everyone else so much better at this than me”
- emotional outburst. “Hysterical crying, angry outbursts”
the most challenging thing for people with RSD can be the Perceived Rejectiin. Things that their nervous system reads as rejection.
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NT = Neurotypical, ND = Neurodiverse
NT to ND: I’m confused, thought you said you have time management
ND to NT: I do, that’s why I have 5 alarms set for each meeting so I arrive early. Don’t you do the same?
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“Control issues” for Autism
what looks like “being difficult” or “controlling” is often a Survival Mechanism for the autistic brain. In a world that feels chaotic, loud and unpredictable, “control” is the only tool we have to lower our baseline anxiety and prevent a total system crash
for an autistic person, unpredictability feels like a threat to safety. When we insist on a specific routine or “the right way” to do things, we are not trying to run your life, we are trying to stabilise ours
eg the “right way” can be
- specific sequence for doing dishes or laundry
- a specific sequence for hanging clothing or storing clean laundry
”Our Space”. When someone moves into our space, it can feel like a violation. For autistic people, our personal space is a “sensory sanctuary” where everything is predictable and provides an area of “safety”
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Impacts of AuDHD
- getting overwhelmed by things way too fast
- everything feels too loud
- emotional dysregulation leading to snapping at others
- silence after verbal outbursts
- instant guilt following verbal outbursts
- replaying the event over and over in one’s mind
- telling oneself that need to do better
All this due to the brain becoming overwhelmed
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Lot of people with ADHD struggle with
- overthinking and mental paralysis
- hyperfocus
- emotional sensitivity and rejection sensitivity
- time blindness
- mental restlessness (even without physical hyperactivity
- trouble starting tasks (including important tasks)
- forgetfulness and brain fog
- impulsive talking and oversharing
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Don't know if these will attach in order. This is a section on ASD and Dissocitation, from the book "Unmasking autism" by Devon Price
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