not coping

[outlander]

hi everyone pretty big update from me in regards to moving forward

As many of you know i have been a carer for the last 11 years, last week i received a call from a care facility who has offered a permanent residential position for grandad. i went at the end of last week to have a look around etc and have been in communication with the admissions officer. Permanent placement has been accepted!
The care home will use the 6 weeks respite allocated to carers first so that its not wasted but during that time he will be transitioning to permanent.
All paperwork has been sorted out and submitted and early next week respite begins. all the tough family conversations have also been had and thankfully there has not been any major arguments over it and it seems the ultimatum chat i had with most of them last year has sunk in and have realized its a big responsibility and no one has capacity to do the job and have accepted this may be the best option all around now.
This means essentially my time as his carer will be ending, i will still be there for him but it wont be at home and the way it is right now.
This also means that i will also be loosing the house and will only be able to have a 3 month lease on the house i am in once it switches to a permanent placement. It also means loosing the pension and despite my own health i will need to work more to cover my share of the bills as well as pops for the next 6 weeks and then ongoing obviously.
there are going to many changes coming for me in the next few months and without much external support im already overwhelmed but i know it is a process and each day something can be achieved in continuing to move forward

thank you everyone who has supported me so far and i do apologies if ive missed anyone

@Sans911 @Snowie @Shaz51 @Creative-writer @Eve7 @tyme @Jynx @Emelia8 @Sophia1 @Appleblossom @Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7 @PeppiPatty @Owlunar @utopia @greenpea

[tyme]

Hey @outlander ,

Thank you for the update. We are so pleased to hear about a permanent placement for your pop. You have really done your fair share of caring and I'm sure you have learnt a lot from it.

You have such a big heart. It's time for you to look after you. We care very much and want what's best for you.

Did you ever get NDIS sorted for yourself?

[outlander]

@tyme the last time i called them they said i was getting closer to the top of the list to be assessed so hopefully within the next couple of weeks i may hear from them or thats my hopes anyway

[outlander]

@creative_writer above post but it didnt tag you properly

[tyme]

Fingers crossed @outlander 

Hugs

[outlander]

i hope so too @tyme im under some investigations at the moment and if they are confirmed it will mean another lifelong condition that will need management and may mean wont be able to persue my career in disability. ill find out in 2 weeks but between now and then i also have 4 more tests that i have to do as well.

[Snowie]

oh @outlander 

That is huge news. For as long as I have known you, you have been your Pop's carer. I'm so glad that you have a place for him and that your family is on board. I know that brings up its own set of issues, but at least you won't have all the responsibility on your shoulders.

You will be able to get back some of your life. One that you choose the path instead of having to think of your Pop first.

Thanks for the update on everything hon. As you know I am here for you. Sending lots of love your way 💌💌

[tyme]

Hope for the best @outlander . You are a battler. We are here for you.

[outlander]

thanks @tyme i can only hope for the best too


thanks @Snowie it will be a very big few months and alot of adjustments too

[creative_writer]

@outlander I hope the placement does take some pressure off your shoulder.

I also hope the NDIS thing gets sorted out soon too. Wishing you the best. Always here for you 💖🫂