not coping

[tyme]

Yeah, I get you. You have limitations in terms of how much time you can take off for therapy etc. For mine, I committed one full day to MBT treatment a week for 18 months. Then, I commited another 2 hours for my other psych appointments. So during this time, I worked only 4 days. @outlander Even then, the treatment was a huge emotional committment. The time and money was not the issue. It was more about pushing myself to continue even when it was damn hard.

So it wasn't like I had to take a month off or anything.

Yeah, the nice walk and stuff can flip you back to the 'happy' side, but as you said, it doesn't last. 

Whereas the MBT work was long lasting. It's so hard to explain. It's not something you can just do over a weekend or a few weeks. It's an amazing therapy, but I don't know how to explain how it works....

[outlander]

what is MBT? @tyme that isnt a therapy im familiar with i dont think. it isnt one thats been suggested to me

oh! i see i thought you meant 18 months as an inpatient. sorry!
4 days of work would be ok for me if i do the weekends so maybe intensive therapy may be an option but i would def need to save up for that.

[outlander]

i just had a quick research @tyme
i do have a psychology session this week so it could be something i speak to my psych about.
i have done ACT, CBT and DBT and exposure therapy in the past

[tyme]

MBT is relatively new in Australia.. not many people do it because of the committment. The program requires both an individual and group sessions over a minimum 18 months. @outlander Mine was through the public system. And yes, 18 months is massive in terms of cost and that's another reason why not many people do it, and there aren't many trained clinicans either.

I feel super lucky to have got into it. And I'm glad I did because it's changed my BPD life around.

What about schema therapy for you?

[outlander]

im not sure ive done schema @tyme
to be honest i havent stuck with many psychologists long enough. the psychologist im with now ive been with her for a year i think and its still hard to really talk to her. shes mostly been a sounding/venting board for a while now with all the changes happening.
i want the help but sometimes i dont think im overly compliant. not because i dont want to but its that fear that if i let go abit ill get back out of control

[tyme]

Hearing you @outlander . Don't worry about being compliant. A skilled therapist will know what to say/do. 

You think I was compliant? No way! 

On my Mental Health Advance Statement that hospitals, doctors, any everyone gets, it clearly states "Do NOT tell me what to do."

And I wasn't joking. The more people told me what to do, the more I felt they were taking control of me so I flipped the other way....

Anyway, I'd love to go on, but I need to wrap up now. I'll see you mid week. All the best with work tomorrow!

[outlander]

thank you for sharing @tyme that all makes sense. this condition can be such a challange sometimes!

[Snowie]

Hi @outlander sorry I wasn't around yesterday but glad you had some support.

Hoping today is going ok for you hon 💌💌

[outlander]

hey @Snowie how are you

[Snowie]

Going ok @outlander Just a few things happening

How are you going?