Not Coping

[Birdofparadise8]

What are you making @Blackbird11 

Will you be around later tonight? 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 I don't know. Bullying and verbal abuse can be so subjective. I've been bullied and abused so much and haven't had any recourse to do anything about it so I've just absorbed it and my MH suffers.

This is my opinion only based on what I have read - I don't think that the response you received was very helpful, it was bordering on harsh which is not what I would expect of a mental health hotline/forum service. Unless you have received several other warnings that were very gentle and advised that the responses would get harsher should you "break the rules" I would certainly be in a tailspin over it. 

I AM going to refer back to my ex friend again and I am sorry but it is the best comparison I can make.

Her last message to me said that I refused to eat with her and her kids because I thought I was better than them. I never once gave that impression to her OR the kids but that's what she said. 
She also said that it took her 2 days to clean my room.

Point 1 - I never ate with her and the kids because they ate dead on 6pm and I am used to eating later. Because she was serving up at 6 she took it upon herself to bring my dinner in to me instead of asking me if I wanted to eat with them or later. But she was very rude and said what she said. I don't know why she said that except to make me feel bad about myself.

Point 2. I TOLD her I would clean my room and did as much as I could but I had to work so only had the weekend I moved out. I had to find room for my stuff in my home and unpack so she said she would clean my room as she had the week off from work. To turn around and say it took her 2 days was BS because the room was spotless when I left it. All she had to do was mop the floor and do a light dust.

Should I react and tell her that what she has done is like being physically abused?

It's so subjective that RO may turn around and make your life more difficult and extend the ban if you DO "over react" as they will put it. People are mean, they don't care about your feelings, they only care about their own.

As I said, this is only my opinion and my thoughts. I personally would do nothing and wait for the ban to be over then get on with it but be careful what you say.

Venting helps but at some stage you have to move on. I am saying that more for my own benefit than yours.

Every day for me is like a minefield of memories, I heard a song my Godson loves as I was driving to the dr and it brought tears to my eyes. I had to change the CD and play something else. Even thinking about it makes me cry.

Day by day, 3 steps forward 2 steps back hon, it's all we can do xx

[Former-Member]

Hey there @Birdofparadise8 🙂🌺

my sincere apologies - I didn’t intend to create confusion 💜🙂

I was pointing out how challenging it can be when asked questions by practitioners, and making decisions is a dilemma - I was attempting to use the common philosophical conundrum of the trolley dilemma to illustrate that 🌺🙂

it seems I haven’t done it very well - I’m sorry dearest 💜🙂

Usually, when it comes to decisions, I frame them in a context of pros/cons or benefits/risks, to then enable a clearer path to a solution, and sometimes things are so complex I can’t get there without taking a step back to review some ethical or philosophical frames of reference 🌺🙂

does that help clarify for you? 
please do let me know 💜🙂

as always, my intention is kindness and support 🫂🌺

[Birdofparadise8]

@ENKELI 

I'm literally sobbing right now. 

I've been warned. 

[Birdofparadise8]

That's okay @Former-Member 

Are you referring to the acceptance? 

[Former-Member]

I’m so sorry you’re so very upset right now @Birdofparadise8 ❤️‍🩹🫂

Sending you big hugs and kindness to you 🌺💜🫂

[Birdofparadise8]

Thank you @Former-Member 

[Birdofparadise8]

What do you like to do for fun @Former-Member 

[Former-Member]

Thanks @Birdofparadise8 🙂🌺

yes, in a way..because acceptance is so hard to just accept ..I have found that I need to find a reason within myself to accept something - it’s gotta make some kind of sense to my internal values and beliefs, otherwise I find myself risking a state of disconnect and niggling feeling like something is sandpaper on my skin, if that kind of makes sense?..

said in kindness for you 🙂💜🌺

[Blackbird11]

I am having chicken, salad and a cup of tea @Birdofparadise8 

I'll check in later