Not Coping

[Birdofparadise8]

I think I do @Snowie 

I’m happy I don’t have a tall man in front of me. I wouldn't be able to see otherwise. 

Hey @tyme do you watch footy?

[tyme]

Nah @Birdofparadise8 ,

I'm not into footy.

I'm more of someone into musicals and theatre over sport.

Enjoy your day though 🙂

[Birdofparadise8]

Have you heard Beauty and the Beast is coming in June @tyme 

I like both AFL to ballet.

[Snowie]

Thats always a good thing @Birdofparadise8 At least you will be able to see everything that is happening.

Does it take you long to get there?

Was in the city this morning but home now.

[Birdofparadise8]

Took so long becuase bus replace train on the line i am on. I got the tram the whole way and took so long @Snowie 

I left extra early. 

[Snowie]

Good that you left early then @Birdofparadise8 Better to be early then trying to find a good seat if you were late.

My son went to the Essendon v Bulldogs game last night with some friends. He seemed to enjoy it.

[Birdofparadise8]

I got a reserved seat @Snowie 

I asked my dad and uncle what ones i should get one for so I knew I had a seat.

I just went to the bathroom and omg they stunk so bad it has made me feel sick. 

[Snowie]

That was a good idea getting a reserved seat @Birdofparadise8 

Just starting now, enjoy the atmosphere!!

[ENKELI]

@creative_writer and a smart person you are, remaining single! I'm not sure of your gender but for me as a female I've faced negativity from family and work colleagues for not marrying and then breeding the requisite 2.5 children.  While I would have loved to have kids for the most part I'm glad to have been able to do things that wouldn't have been viable were I encumbered with a family.

My parents split when I was only young, back in the '70s when divorce was uncommon and there is enough trauma surrounding the effects of that.

I've always had high expectations so fall hard when they're not fulfilled.  So this time I am just treading lightly and doing the old "Let go and let God" for a change.

I'm pleased to hear you are getting past the trough and and still keeping you in my thoughts. I hope you start to feel heaps better soon. 🤗🙏

[Former-Member]

Hey there @creative_writer 🌺🙂

yes that’s a really good idea to try your sisters fidget device, and see if it helps 🙂

I’m so sorry you’ve been having intrusive thoughts, and it’s distressing for you💜

Gently, sometimes being anxious and under the weather can reduce resilience, limit our window of tolerance, and as a result there can be increased vulnerability to trauma, however, I’d like to kindly say to you that imho there isn’t the matter of overreacting to past trauma; instead, it’s just a reaction to the trauma which presents itself with different amounts of impact. I think a reaction to trauma is how a body and brain are trying to cope/adapt/manage to trauma and it’s triggering’s in various situations. I don’t think that is an overreaction- it’s just how any one person is responding to what’s going on inside and around them. 
Whether that response is what would be considered ‘normal’ is really of no consequence or importance, when the response is based on previous experiences of trauma…all of us with trauma have different responses and reactions to a variety of sensitivities in daily life, and I think there is no gauge for determining what degree, gently, nor should there be.. it just is what it is dearest 🙂🌺💜

Please do remember that sometimes we cant find the reason something can ‘set us off’ in terms of our past trauma, however that never means it’s an overreaction or irrational - it’s just our body and brain doing it’s best under the circumstances 💜🌺