I’m bored.. + some random thoughts

[Blackcloud]

@rav3n that’s understandable! Sure, I’ll keep checking out on Relationships Australia, in case Orange Door doesn’t work and I’ll have to keep it in mind, though I was actually referring to the ones that are located in the Melbourne CBD (regarding the one star reviews that a majority of clients have posted for those services) since I live in the city. Those services such as: Melbourne Family Relationships Centre, and Relationship Matters. 
The services that have ‘Relationships Australia’ as the actual names in it are pretty far from where we (me and my family) live, like 35 mins or so away if we took the train.

The main issue I have with mediation or some therapy/counselling that involves another party in it, is trying to get my mum involved in it, which I find to be the hardest part. But at the same time, at least she’s been accepting the fact that I’ve been needing mental health help for a while (unlike my dad but at least my dad and I don’t talk and connect with each other at all) so….umm I don’t really know what to really tell her otherwise if I was to tell her that her and I are going to a service for a family mediation together. Do you know if Relationships Australia also include interpreters there? Because I feel that getting a Khmer interpreter involved would be good, even though my mum’s English level is okay to quite good I think, it’s just that my dad’s English level is better than hers.

Yes I can try do that with both Orange Door and Anglicare if it’s possible for them (especially Orange Door I hope) to do that. 

thank you, I really appreciate the kind words. ❤️🙏

going off topic I have recently started learning Korean at a Korean tutor (well the classes are online already lol) that I already paid for the online class and a textbook with but I’m not sure if I plan on continuing it after I finish the level (elementary 1A) that I’m doing right now and every (most of not all I assume) different classes go for 8 weeks so that’s not too long or too bad.

EDIT: I’ve just emailed Orange Door, just pretty much giving them an introduction to myself and what situation I’m going through and a brief summary of the situation, just in case if they want to book an appointment with me and I would then need to explain the situation with them in detail.

EDIT 2: it’s Thursday 30th Jan and Orange Door was able to get back to me via email this morning, so I’m gonna be having an assessment done by a practitioner over the phone either by today or next week

EDIT 3: it’s 3:20pm right now and I got in contact with Orange Door via phone, and the lady I spoke to was so nice and she was soooo kind and empathetic towards my situation too. It’s even better knowing that she also experienced a similar situation herself since she’s also Asian and did actually get married at age 20 due to the pressures from her parents. Even though the service couldn’t help me further other than just originally about to refer me to some services which she already knew that I’ve been referred to Orange door by a few different other services I spoke to lol. She said that I did the right thing by reaching out to Orange Door as well as other services and whatnot, so I couldn’t thank her enough for allowing me to share this whole situation with her and how im feeling about it all. She also said that if my circumstances have changed to the point where I’m now at risk or unsafe due to the situation then I’m welcome to contact Orange Door back. 

I also got an email back from the Youth Law Australia after I first sent them an email mentioning about the situation over a week ago and they sent me a lengthy email detailing all the different dot points haha, so would take me some time to get through all of that I reckon!

so nowwww it seems that going to the family mediation/therapy/counselling route is now the only and final way to do it. YESEEAAAAAHHHHGGGHHHH

EDIT 4: nevermind it seems that Youth Law Australia does have lawyers that you can get free legal advice from and they also provided some great information in different dot points outlining the different circumstances in relation to my situation. One of the ones that stood out to me is that if at anytime I am being put in a situation where I’d be forced to marry someone I don’t want to marry, as well as being forced to go overseas to marry someone, then I can contact the AFP (Australian Federal Police) for them to prevent me from going to the airport for that

[Blackcloud]

Hi @Jynx how are you?

[tyme]

Hey @Blackcloud , How are you?

[Jynx]

Allo allo @Blackcloud what's the happy haps?

[Blackcloud]

@Jynx @tyme just feeling a lil overwhelmed at the moment with a bit of everything going on but I’ve managed to do at least a few of the tasks that I initially was hesitant on doing at first or couldn’t be bothered due to how long I thought this thing might take?, but I did it!! Hasn’t been an easy process but almost every little piece of step I’ve taken is worth the relief mentally than not doing it at all

[tyme]

Woohoo! You know what? Give yourself credit for that @Blackcloud .

Also, how you started your studies yet for this year?

[Blackcloud]

Thanks @tyme I appreciate it!❤️

I assume you mean how I plan on studying my course/s for this year?

Well for Cert IV of I.T which I started doing last year in July, so for this semester it would be the semester 2 of this course for me and I’m doing all units for this semester full time whereas I did most of the units for last semester in “part time”. This means that for the next upcoming semester, I would then have to do the remaining units left that I didn’t do within the last semester. Again, with the cert 4 of mental health peer work, my thought of wanting to do that course will eventually change as we get to next semester, as I do want to move straight into doing an associate degree of I.T next year after I (hopefully) will complete this cert 4 course by this year.

[Jynx]

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@Blackcloud wrote:

Hasn’t been an easy process but almost every little piece of step I’ve taken is worth the relief mentally than not doing it at all

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Ugh can you like, send this message directly into my brain somehow? Would be nice if I remembered that when I procrastinate yet another phone call 🤣🤣

Actually maybe I'll write it out all pretty and pop it on my wall!

"Blackcloud says 'It will bring relief! Do it!'"

Big kudos 😋

[Blackcloud]

@Jynx LOL that cracked me up!! 😄😄 I love it!! I’m glad to know that what I said have at least inspired you to do the same thing haha!! 😆😊🤗  it totally is worth the relief the moment you do it and the feeling you get after you do that 🙃💪🏼☺️

And omg the phone call part is so true but at the same time I can’t really relate since I don’t think I’ve ever procrastinated one before, but I definitely do have times where I hesitate to give a phone call especially when it comes to ummm…having to verbally interact generally (especially when services do have email and live chat functions as another way to reach out to them) and also in such situations where I’m not really considering that kind of situation right now until probably sometime later.

For example, an agent from Good Shepherd called me a few days ago about willing to help me with my budgeting (last week I submitted my contact details regarding this on the good shepherd website), but I missed the call from him at that time, then after that I didn’t bother giving him a call back as I wasn’t too worried or stressed about ‘budgeting’ at the moment but then he gave me a call back today and I answered his call haha! So now I’m gonna be having a phone appointment with him within 21 more days!

[Blackcloud]

@Jynx @rav3n yo I’m on reddit right now and have been reading through this one post on the Cambodia subreddit, I was replying to this user’s (FYI, the user is Cambodian — born and raised in Cambodia) comment on the post. And from what I’ve seen according to the comment he wrote on that post as well as some other comments he has made on other posts too, I don’t agree with a lot of the things he has said since he mostly comes off as being quite racist and very insensitive. 

It was on a reddit post where someone was asking what’s the average age for a Cambodian woman to get married? And the comment where that user himself mentioned about most Khmer parents wanting their kids to marry someone within their own culture, and I responded to his comment saying that this is 100% true as someone who is of Khmer diasporic, and then he responded with “yea, it should be normal for any Asian ethnicity tbh, most people want other people within their own culture. It even applies to pretty much any other people to.” Which I agree with by the way but at the same time I also disagree in the sense where if it’s someone that lives in a foreign country, like say if a Cambodian diasporic wants to marry a Korean diasporic, then that should as well be the norm too. Why can’t we just accept different cultures especially if it’s people that were born and raised in a foreign country especially? Why do people in their own respective homogenous countries wanna be racist and not be accepting of other races coming to or associating with another person’s culture? If that makes sense

but anyways, some or most of his comments from other posts I’ve seen are very insensitive and a lot that I disagree with as someone like myself who comes from a country that’s more progressive than his country who is still problematically conservative as hell