Tabaluga's

[Former-Member]

I know @TAB 

But I also know how this person will play the game around the system. 
Perhaps past experience hadn’t served me well in family law either. 

[TAB]

leave town then, does not sound healthy @Former-Member 

[greenpea]

@Former-Member   oh Fadin.  i dont know your full story but i will tell you a bit of mine. my dad was an abusive drunk.  my mother only thinks it affected her not myself and my sister.... but it did.  funally enough my sister thinks he was a saint ....weird. anyway if you can get far away.  interstate if need be.  i did and it saved my life.  dad is dead now and i am thankful i can live in peace.  i hope you can escape no one deserves to live in fear.

[TAB]

Bed here so comfy @Meowmy  I need new pillows and sheets oh plus tv in bedroom lol. Sleep well. Nite

[Former-Member]

Oh gosh @greenpea 

That would have been so hard. Unfortunately laws don’t allow families to

easily move interstate without being summoned back by the other party. There may be a distance between but it is only so far that remaining in the same state is possible. Of course unless an agreement can be made.

 @TAB yes I know and agree with you both.

 I refuse to be pushed around and let vigilantism move me away from a place my children feel connected to friends.

It got me down this evening, one of those sudden moments when you can’t even eat, everything feels hard and overwhelming. I have three boys, the tasks never end.

I feel it really did overwhelm me why people act without thinking so carelessly.

I know some of these people certainly would choose to deal the situation with underhand ways.

But I never have seen this an answer. For karma pays a pretty price.

I can only remind myself of how far I have come and my own strength.

I just wish he would come collect his belongings rather than doing the drive by’s or making small excuses to come in. 
So I can stop taking important things away. 
His behaviour is unpredictable and for now I refuse to be beaten. 😊

[tonys]

The bit I most like about @greenpea   post is .   "it saved her Life"   That's the bottom line.

You have one life..  Save it, . . . . while you still have the choice to do so.  Even with legal

interventions,   you have no control over these people.    The papers are full of people who

simply, . .  never saw it coming..   The gods have granted you more than your allotment of 

warnings.    Its not running .           Its a strategic withdrawal from toxic terrain,  fading in a 

rear vision mirror.   

You are at that point in your life.   One decision..   here..   now..    

I wish you,  and your children,  a happy safe life.                                                                   tonys..

[TAB]

Get his stuff out of househe does not have to get it he can get someone else to. Make a date if no one comes puton footpath and say free on fb

@Former-Member  then block him

[Former-Member]

😂 @TAB 

oh I know! If only!

An issue with blocking, is the legal aspect when a child be in the picture. This would grant favour toward him. 
I’m far too smart for any of that.

Tricky yes, because I have watched his nature, it is calculated. The more I realised the scarier it became. 

[TAB]

Have you had advice from anyone ? @Former-Member 

I'll butt out on this. Out of my depth. I dont associate with people who mean me harm.

[Former-Member]

I did @TAB 

I’ve had some assistance, getting some more. To protect my privacy I won’t detail. But yes, they felt concern. It gave me some peace. 
not easy,

I'm doing my best and for the kids to be calm.