@Jynx
For me, I live knowing I have no boundaries ( my fault ) . It’s a state where the membrane between self and other is almost non-existent. A bit like 'folie au deux,' in a love relationship where you talk and feel same same as your partner .
It's triggered more because of my head injury when I was 15 ( clinically dead 7 times, coma 6 weeks)
I absorbed the stress and pain of others as if it were me, but it was/is my pain. My anxiety.
I had a hairdresser - he is a very popular hairdresser in Western Australia. He went above and beyond for my youngest son when he was sick. But I knew him and his wife. I FELT what was happening in their personal lives. So I quit seeing him because I felt like I wanted to say something. But I didn't, I left.
Suprisingly my psychotherapist sees him too and I started tell her that I felt this when I saw him. So she helped me walk away.
I would feel if I had a past boyfriend, i could feel the physical sensation of a drug being injected into his arm.
I felt ..... Happiness --- a compliment given to someone else.
But I used to be very open to dangerous situations. It felt like my insides......
So I was/am incredibly vulnerable.
Iv gotten in the past some silly situations .
" Hey, PeppyPatti can I use your toilet ? I'm just going to steal your pearl necklace as well. "
I got help from three people.
Via 3 therapists meditators neaurologist. - Jon Kabat Zinn a meditator, Terry Real wrote book called " I don't want to Talk About it" and a neaurologist called Dr James Doty. Medication.
I think I found Dr James Doty and Jon Kabat Zinn in 2006. I just kept on listening to the audibles -
now I can think I was locating my own center. Find a sense of me.
Listened to the audibles all day in the car. I think Terry Real helped out with family dynamics. Taught me to walk Way. So did Sane forums.
I haven't I think changed much but I learning to say " time out," " I need to self care."
I learned I needed support. Not to have self indulgent pal Wals about " all our collective childhood wounds," talks but " I want to visit someone or telephone someone, should I do this ?"
My husband, people who I trust.
I live as an unboundried person. I don't hate myself anymore
I guess James Doty taught me to be compassionate with myself and as @Appleblissom says, be gentle.
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Empathy is a feeling with someone—for me is dangerous and depleting.
Iv done silly things like lots of other people . . I Married a person who has a diagnosis of schizophrenia because I was devastated with how the State government's mental health treated him. ....... He is a wonderful person but not marriageable.
So my support people know about my un boundaries.
My ex-husband
Husband
Sane forums
NDIS support coordinator.
