16-01-2026 05:17 PM
16-01-2026 05:17 PM
I have someone on my mind @Realness . My psych tells me I'm trauma bonding. My son is worried. It's so intoxicating. I don't feel like I can discuss it with anyone yet, especially on a public forum (except my psych).
I've been speaking to @MissGremlin and she has said that she is open to prayer and we could pray for her, if you're not already. @DownMoreThanUp @ENKELI @Appleblossom . Let's reach out and support her in prayer. 💚
16-01-2026 05:34 PM
16-01-2026 06:54 PM
16-01-2026 06:54 PM
@Realness @DownMoreThanUp @Appleblossom @ENKELI Sorry I'm not interacting at the moment. I'm reading everything! Please keep tagging me. 💚
16-01-2026 07:16 PM - edited 16-01-2026 07:20 PM
16-01-2026 07:16 PM - edited 16-01-2026 07:20 PM
@heartathome That sounds like a wonderful idea! Praying for you @MissGremlin even now. i do know from first hand experience how hard it can be to have faith in (God's) Goodness when depressed, but it is unbelievably liberating when we trust Jesus to fix what has gone wrong and love us out of our pit. If you lack faith in God's goodness dare to ask Jesus for some, just doing that plants the seeds of faith that will grow you a bulwark never failing.😀
Please feel free to ask questions.
@Realness Yes i would write about that process as well. Interestingly the Scriptural process of salvation described in the book of Revelation spiritually/psychologically lent itself very well to the concept of alters, more in a self in deed, than a divided self within self as alters are though, but still it would be easy to incorporate i reckon.
For this is what i would like to do is create, main characters, out of the 'pool' of mentally ill people i have had friendly relationships with over the years. And then have them meet Jesus as the living word in their life journey as Scripture teaches, not religious doctrines or dogmas, and find healing, and the overcoming of their bad life, in and with Him.
@AuntGlow @Shaz51 @Appleblossom
Still struggling with major depressive moods. And a little triggered after someone gave me a going over about something that hurts me deeply, without any regard for that hurt. Yet processing it well i hope.
What has been really good is to see my emotion of love coming back again, albeit slowly. Ever since my first major psychosis i lost touch with a lot of my emotions, the emotion called love was the worst one effected. instead of love i feel pain. Searing pain! Yet now. Over the years some of of my emotions have been restored, but sadly the ability to feel love as an emotion only a very little. Overwhelming emotional aguish yes, but love no. Yet now the emotion of love is coming back, slowly, with my wife mostly, but also my kids and grand kids. (The good part of loosing my emotional sense of love was, that to experience love i had to get in touch with my heart, yet that is where i found Jesus!😍
Hoping everyone is fine?
Depressed?
The hurt of our depression
is not just the painful fact
that all our good life is gone,
but even much worse seeing
that crappy bad life enjoying
ripping our remaining life apart.
The sorrow of our depression
are those malicious lies ruling
twisting us into an abomination
time and again those nasty lies
dumping us in that desolate pit
always bringing us desolation.
The hopelessness of depression
always floods fully throughout us
when we are utterly overwhelmed
by the darkness pressing us down
us deep into that black hole smiting
with us feeling lonely and forsaken.
The way out of deepest depression
is to persist to lovingly love yourself
away from the loveless lies hurting,
entering back in God's Loving Truth,
ruling Christ's Good Life from Above.
i've really come to appreciate Jacob Lee. The song to me in me!😀
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3TQRkF8BLq4&list=RD3TQRkF8BLq4&start_radio=1
16-01-2026 08:13 PM
16-01-2026 08:13 PM
Hi there @heartathome ,
Thanks for your post. I'm so glad you have your psych to talk to. That's a face to face conversation and better than the Forum.
But the Forum is still real and we're still here for you.
It feels nice when I meet someone I feel a connection with. Because I'm reserved it doesn't happen that often and I can get obsessed. Or sometimes I have had a really good friendship with someone and it is afterwards that I find myself thinking about them. I don't know about you - you're more of an extrovert than I am - but that sort of connection doesn't happen that often.
Did you tell your son also? Or did he work it out. No need to answer me.
I'm not 100% sure what trauma bonding is but please be careful.
...
@MissGremlin is like a Forum angel. I will definitely pray.
16-01-2026 08:16 PM
16-01-2026 08:28 PM
16-01-2026 10:25 PM
16-01-2026 10:25 PM
Thanks for not judging me. It's a definite obsession @Realness
I've been truthful with my son (and everyone) from the start but am much more reserved with him now. The more this person and I get to know each other, the more protective of my partner my son gets. My partner knows what's going on because I told him. My son doesn't know that. He will always be the love of my life and is also family after 20 something years! We only see each other a couple of times a year since 2022 when we were separated (by the flood) 2 hours away from each other. My feelings are very confusing regarding this new person.
Trauma bonding is a psychological attachment that forms when someone who hurts you (incest) also gives moments of care, attention, or relief, causing the brain to link pain with connection. This can make abuse feel confusingly like love, loyalty, or safety, even when it's harming you. I know (in my head) trauma bonding is not love!
This obviously still affects me today. 💜
18-01-2026 01:08 PM
18-01-2026 01:08 PM
Hi, @heartathome , @DownMoreThanUp , @Appleblossom , @ENKELI , @AlwaysMyself , @REDLINEZ750 ,
John 8
- Jesus teaching in the Temple - the woman caught in adultery - Jesus: "Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her" ... no one throws a stone ... "I do not condemn you either. Go on your way and from now on sin no more."
- Jesus teaching while talking with the Jews:
All through the book of John, Jesus' words are Spirit words. It's not surprising the Jews had difficulty understanding Him.
18-01-2026 01:19 PM
18-01-2026 01:19 PM
Thank you for sharing @Realness ,
He who hath not sinned, let him throw the first stone - this is something that always comes to mind to keep be humble and ensure I don't judge others.
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