Christian Chat

[AuntGlow]

Of course! @heartathome 🥰

I can hear this is really big for you right now and I can absolutely relate to how overwhelming feeling abandoned can be. I do think your idea of staying and adjusting to their presence not being here is a really good plan. The reason why I say this is because it might allow your mind and body to feel what it's like to still be held, connected, and supported. I know it's such a scary feeling when someone we have connected with is no longer present, so I don't want to downplay this reality at all. Everything you are feeling makes so much sense. However, I can see there are many people who really care about you here. So I wonder what it would be like to connect with other people and allow them to hold you in your vulnerability right now? It's okay to talk about what is coming up for you and to ask your friends for help. I can imagine they have been through similar things too. 💛 @ENKELI @DownMoreThanUp 

[DownMoreThanUp]

@heartathome  i have not been closely following the conversation, so i'm not sure if this will support you rightly, but i hope so. i understand you have lost your inner rest because you worry about someone you love well being? And find it hard to deal with not knowing what is going?

i have suffered with this many times! It is so very hard for me to let go when i need to do that, the closer to the heart the more such inner unrest seems to be the case in my experience.

One way i deal with what i term to myself my 'emotional overload' is to acknowledge my inability to cope, without shame or guilt or taking on bad labels towards myself, or others of course. Also, and this is very important not trying to quell/resist the thoughts and feelings in our hearts but rather bring ourself is such a state into the presence of the Lord in prayer and ask Him to reveal how He deals with such sensitive situations. 

i find that once the judging, character reducing turmoil and gossip, about the person i care about, as well as myself trying to deal with it rightly, is over, The Truth starts to become clear and what i term Jesus' will about my issue is revealed to me. Such happens always through the words of Scripture spoken from within your heart and mind. In the Spirit of love for God, myself and others. It is this Spirit i ask Jesus to dress me with, so i can enter Father's Heavenly Rest about this with the rest of myself where i already hsave learned to let go and trust Jesus with the welfare of those i love.

My faith in God's/Jesus' love, rather than the trouble my loved ones or i face doing the right thing is what gets me through these times. Yet i know it is not an easy Way out. But i also know it is the best Way to walk on. For once we have learned to trust Jesus with our whole heart about the issue we struggle with, we will certainly rule beside Him over our lives in the Heavenly Realms in that part of our lives, instead of sweating it down here in our often feeble, broken, and so very mortal inabilities.

At least it has always been like that for me when Jesus brought me His Victory dropping of my inabilities at His feet.

i hope this might be helpful. My prayers go out to you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARSGgC9iQb0&list=RDARSGgC9iQb0&start_radio=1

i know that finding God's Way of doing things, when it comes to dealing with our emotions and life situations, is unparalleled down on this earth.

[AuntGlow]

Sending prayers your way @DownMoreThanUp 💛

[ENKELI]

@DownMoreThanUp forgive my lateness, I haven't been online until now, although I did say a general pray for you and your family as I do each day.

I'm so.pleased to hear all went okay, thank goodness the dentist was well equipped to handle your special needs girl.

Going to the dentist can be scary for anyone so add the fear of needles and the low comprehension, your daughter is so very brave.

I'm praying she will not be in any pain as she heals 🙏 ❤️ 

[ENKELI]

@DownMoreThanUp I know this was intended for @heartathome but I want to thank you for your post.

Being another in the doesn't deal with rejection category I really appreciate your ideas.

We so tend to lean towards the negative so your ideas of acknowledging without shame and guilt.

I thank God every day for my Sane Christian friends, @heartathome know that I am praying for you as I am sure everyone else is too.

You are such a valued member and I can assure you that I have no plans to leave Sane any time soon!

Now that may frighten you or bring you happy thoughts lol!

Take care both of you, may God's richest blessings be bestowed upon you 🙏 xx

[DownMoreThanUp]

@ENKELI @AuntGlow @heartathome @rav3n 

She has done really well this afternoon and even did her weekly shopping after we left her in the care of her carer. However her emotional high came down about halfway the afternoon, and she has crashed since then. She has not needed a pain killer yet, but will be given some 1/2 hour before bed.

Our girl is really strange dealing with pain. A little sore? Massive big tears, and at times the need to help her move on from there. A big sore? And she will hide away her pain and deny the hurt she is in.

Once, years ago, she slammed the car door shut on her thumb without us noticing it. The poor girl did not open the car door to get it out, but instead yanked it out, really increasing the damage, and then even worse hid her finger, and her pain out of sight for the rest of that day and all that night.

Only the next morning my wife noticed her big swollen finger and the dark blue nail. It must have throbbed terribly all that day and night we realised, while still under full pressure. She never once let on she had been in pain, yet we all knew full well how sore a blue nail is when the pressure is still on, both having suffered such condition a few times ourselves. Even when my wife noticed her sore thumb did she still try and hide and deny it. No tears whatsoever, not when it all came out either. Strange or what?

Such is our girl. So we were so proud of her today. She was so brave! She knew it had to be done, and  accepted this, to her, massive intrusions into her personal space. Our daughter does not quickly trust anyone into intrude her personal space, let alone having to deal with a stranger who hurt her doing that.

Yet she did today! A very first we know, and she knows she achieved as well. She was so proud of hrself showing off her tooth.

Thanks for praying and caring.

[ENKELI]

@DownMoreThanUp, that is so interesting about your daughter. I wonder what it is that she feels she needs to hide.

I cringed when I read about her thumb, I remember my dear friend T when she had a blue big toe - she ended up getting her hubby to drill a hole in it to relieve the pressure and that sounded bad enough. Your daughter is a brave heart!

I also think she is blessed to have you and your wife as her parents ❤️ 

[heartathome]

Thank you for your kind words @ENKELI . You are so beautiful! It's comforting to know that you are planning on staying on SANE. My friend made contact with me yesterday and I understand more of how it works. Now I know that he cares! I have been quite emotional when I thought I'd lost my best friend on here. Thank you for your prayers Enkeli. They are not wasted! 💛

[heartathome]

I'm glad everything went well with your daughter at the dentist @DownMoreThanUp What a very brave girl you have! I haven't met one person who likes the dentist. I'm surprised she didn't react when she had to get the needles. They're not pleasant! She must have a high tolerance for pain! I believe God's comfort was with her. 💛  

[heartathome]

Thanks for your thoughts, @DownMoreThanUp I appreciate them! I would never say anything negative about my friend. They need to do what they need to do! They got in touch with me and now I know that they care, which makes all the difference! I'm still on my learners on this forum. 💛