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23 Sep 2017 05:15 PM
23 Sep 2017 05:15 PM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
in reply to your latest post
yes I am the same as you ...I feel for others who are hurting.....
I have in the past put too much effort into others and left myself last....little energy left to give to oneself when last
so am learning....I give a certain amount....politely and respectfully remove myself then...
yes I analyse too....I am just analytical ...my style of thinking...it is who I am...so leave that one as is
empathic as you describe yourself...yes...thank goodness there are people like us @eudemonism @Adek ....we just have to learn to set healthy boundaries
am practising the boundaries
when the thoughts become negative I now stop and think is this my old style thinking? if so....start changing the wording to more positive....no more putting myself down.....
lastly practise very hard with the philosphy living in the now
well nearly lastly......recognise that I am human....I can make mistakes...slip up sometimes.....I am learning...I am doing something about it
so am smiling....keep on practising smiling....produces seratonin
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23 Sep 2017 08:01 PM
23 Sep 2017 08:01 PM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
Does that make sense @Former-Member ? Then on the contrary they use me for everything they can. It's not everybody and not all the time. But it's definitely happening behind my back. Between them. (Mentally tag teaming me with their words and judgments ) And it's like my shortcomings have caused it. And it's like they have no shortcomings. But when they in need of a visitor or to bludge off someone. You guessed it. I'm their number one man. It's types of things like this that get on my nerves and creates stress and nervousness. And make me anxious. I can sense the aura and vibes of these things happening. It's terrible.
But in all honesty. I've done it too them. And i think i done it too them out of retaliation. Fight fire with fire type of thing. And i find stuff in the Bible that basically gives me a second opinon which confirms the whole scenario is true.
I got philosophies and analogies left right and centre in my mind. And it's all based around understanding what's going on. And unfortunately. It don't tell a very nice story. Allows me to laugh at the situations they based around though. And cause i got social issues. And don't have alot to offer the world. It makes it really difficult to change my circumstances. I also feel that they come against me because they know I'm just gonna forgive them anyway. And i think they do it so they know they have power and control over me. In a social hyracy sense. And i never become anything. Good conversation for them also.
Here's something i told myself awhile ago. "The world has always come against me before i have come against it" it's basically like, alot of people out there live their lives according to old testament rules. While I'm doing the new testament thing. And it gives them a human slave that is fearing being deprived of their needs unless they want what is best for their psychological abusers. Not many options really unless i play the old testament game in return.
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23 Sep 2017 08:02 PM
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24 Sep 2017 12:51 AM
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24 Sep 2017 01:10 AM
24 Sep 2017 01:10 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
"Hero"
If you look inside your heart
You don't have to be afraid
Of what you are
There's an answer
If you reach into your soul
And the sorrow that you know
Will melt away
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
It's a long road
When you face the world alone
No one reaches out a hand
For you to hold
You can find love
If you search within yourself
And the emptiness you felt
Will disappear
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
Lord knows
Dreams are hard to follow
But don't let anyone
Tear them away
Hold on
There will be tomorrow
In time
You'll find the way
And then a hero comes along
With the strength to carry on
And you cast your fears aside
And you know you can survive
So when you feel like hope is gone
Look inside you and be strong
And you'll finally see the truth
That a hero lies in you
That a hero lies in you
That a hero lies in you
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24 Sep 2017 04:43 AM
24 Sep 2017 04:43 AM
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24 Sep 2017 04:57 AM
24 Sep 2017 04:57 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
I'm interested about how you say the government has sponsored you. Cause i feel it's the same type of thing with me. What's the process where you're from?
The government here has put an incredibly heavy tax on cigarettes. And it increases every 12 months. It's to try and make people stop smoking. A bit unfair for all the people who have been addicted for a long time. And started smoking in their early teens. What's it like in your country?
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24 Sep 2017 05:06 AM
24 Sep 2017 05:06 AM
Re: Coming to terms with reality
My dog is doing great. He has a great nature and just wants to play with other dogs. Chase the birds. Get attention from people. Stretch his legs. Play in the water. Sniff around. Then when he's in the backyard he just lies around and sleeps. Whines at me from time to time. Plays fetch. Chews on a bone. Annoys the cat. Have you ever owned a dog? And how's your walking going now that the weather has warmed up?
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