Hi @CheerBear. The more the merrier!! Jump in any time. How do you get down in winter? You point out some good things about winter. I love jackets, scalves, track suits and baggy clothes.
I had another day in bed today. Not smart but so cold. Having lots of hurting flashbacks, probably triggered by the weather I suspect. Its like the intense feelings around avloved ones.passing have attached to all past memories of her, turns on the SI big time, which frightens me. Can a @Moderator tell me if that is common years after a major sudden loss? Will current grounding exercises keep it at bay or is it a sign I need more help atm?
Eventually I found a way to get warm as toast - under an electric throw rug in bed today most the day - its like heaven, especially for my knees that really feel the cold. Its only 11°C on my veranda at midday and a cold wind.
Have a shift at the shop tomorrow so hope I can get moving, don't mind the shop work. Had some paranoia / social anxiety last week so hope that's gone.
Tell me about yourself Cheerbear 🌷🌿
Good morning @Former-Member and everyone here. I've seen you around a little but it's nice to 'meet' you properly lapses 🙂
Tights and boots, winter dresses, big jackets, soup (I love soup!), hot chocolates, my cats liking me a lot more through these months - they're other winter things that make this time of the year just a tiny bit more tolerable for me. I also love crochet and have been working on a huge blanket for months. Yesterday I had it over my legs (it is now bug enough to wrap myself in it if I want to) and thought how much nicer it is to not be melting hot and try to work on a thick blanket! Do you like gardening/flowers lapses? I was going to plant bulbs in our garden ready for spring this year but missed my chance because my mh took a turn. I like thinking that there are so many people around where I live who have probably planted all kinds of pretties which will lie in waiting ready for a beautiful show when the weather is a little warmer. Kind of like a reward for riding out this time of the year.
I wonder if it is too late to try something like this where I am? It could be like a bit of hope in a pot 🙂 .
I have ptsd (with MDD and GAD lurking underneath it), and understand how intense it can be to have flashbacks and then be stuck with hits of SI. I know you asked whether it's common to experience this years after a major sudden loss. From my understanding people who have experienced big traumas can spend years living with the after effects. Grounding exercises can help in the moment, though I can find it a struggle to get to a place where I'm able to ground myself when I'm re-experiencing trauma. Sounds to me like you did what you needed to yesterday and comforted and took care of yourself. Your throw rug sounds great and I can imagine how nice that would have felt.
While I don't think I have SAD, I do think that the weather definitely stirs up the ugly depression stuff I have brewing away. Winter is long here and I know that come July/August it will probably feel like it's been going forever and will never end. It always does though (I'm writing this here to remind myself of it and if I need to I'll visit this post again in a month or so!).
I hope you are able to get moving this morning and that your shift is a good one. I'd better go and start my day too.
Take care 🙂
Hi @Former-Member@CheerBear@Shaz51@soul@Former-Member
We are one week into winter - and if anyone wants to know about my countdown of days - there are 92 days from June 1st to August 31st and 7 of them - one week - are over
I know spring can be bleak - but we are 7 down and 85 days left - and I always like this
The big even in June is the Winter Solstice or the Longest Night or Shortest Day - which ever - and that is in two weeks time - so hold that thought in your shivery minds
July and August can be cold but the days start stretching out - and this is always good -
In the meantime - fluffy jumpers and trakky daks with wore out flannel shirts and thick socks - hot soup - I have been making fried rice - as well as clearing my vegetables by making hot soup
And if possible - plan a trip - I keep changing my ideas - I am thinking about going to Hobart to see my rellies - but I might change my mind yet again
Oh yes - I posted this mountain elsewhere - it's Mont Blanc - looks snowy there
Dec
Hi @Dec, llike your countdown too, one week in 11 togo (why does that make me feel more cold. People I talk to that have been to Yas in winter say they are more set up for the cold than the rest of us so that's better. I'll catch you on the other thread Dec you stay warm 🙂
@CheerBear, thanks for checking in. You'll have to post a pic of your new umbrella. Good idea brightening up the world ☔ Hope your tooth isn't abcessed - get into the vit-C. You stay warm too.
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Tonight i feel like bursting into tears and I don't know why. Had a good shift at the shop today. Got couple things done when I got home. Even got a couple tx messages. Bit cold so about to rug up in bed. Don't like the cold. Might have ☕ & choc first 🌷🌿
Good morning @Former-Member and everyone here.
Hope you slept well lapses. It's good to hear you had a good shift at the shop, though I'm sorry to hear you felt sad a teary last night.
I love that photo you posted - sitting by a fire is definitely another little something that makes winter seem nicer. Though in the above picture the first thing I wanted to do was put socks on whoever is sitting there! It's all good to have hands wrapped around a warm drink, but if my feet aren't completely covered in multiple layers of thick socks/slippers etc, no other part of me feels warm enough!
I found this beautiful photo today.
It reminded me of what I saw in the reflections from the windows of the houses I walked past yesterday.
It's another showery and cool day forecast for here and I have to venture out of the house (and out from under my blanket) to go to the dentist today. I'll keep watch in the puddles and see if I can catch some colours looking up at me.
How are you planning on spending today?
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