Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script

[Oaktree]

Hi guys please welcome @Janis_J to the forums. She wants to know how to build more self compassion and to be honest I need to know how to do that too. When things happen, I am often embarrassed/ashamed at my reaction/over-reaction and I just hate myself as a result.

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[Former-Member]

@Janis_J 

Welcome to the fold, we are a nice bunch around here so you should feel safe and welcome. 

[BPDSurvivor]

Hi @Oaktree @Former-Member @Janis_J ,

Hrmmmm.... self compassion. A tricky one indeed. I certainly struggle to have self-compassion for myself. I know the strategies, but I'm yet to find room to have compassion on myself.

Strat 1:

Consider the things you say to yourself. Would you say that to other people? For example, you may say to yourself, "I am absolutely useless and good for nothing." Would you say this directly to someone else?

Strat 2:

Have a picture of you as a child and talk to him/her. How would you speak compassionately to this child? Then find the same compassion for your inner-child.

Strat 3:

Sounds stupid, but talk to yourself using a mirror. Could you honestly say some of the things you say , to yourself?

All can say is give it a go!

BPDSurvivor

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[BPDSurvivor]

@Oaktree , how are you going, my friend?

[Shaz51]

hello @BPDSurvivor , @Former-Member , @Oaktree , @Former-Member , @BlueBay  ow are you going today my friends 

it is sunny up here today , wow 

[Oaktree]

Hi @Shaz51 @BPDSurvivor @Former-Member @Former-Member @BlueBay 

I am ok, hanging in there!

Meggle

[Shaz51]

that is good @Oaktree , hope your day was okish 

it was sunny here  so we caught up on a few jobs and finished at 1-30pm and had some lunch 

did a load of washing too 

[Oaktree]

@Shaz51 

The biggest excitement in my day was 5 pieces of KFC for $8 for lunch. I have a cold at the moment and feel lousy so I had an afternoon nap. Just watching tv now. Weather here is grey and miserable.

Meggle

[Shaz51]

5 pieces of KFC for $8 for lunch-- ohh yumm @Oaktree  shame you have a rotten cold my friend , hope you feel better soon 

ohh that means we will have rain up here again soon xx

[Oaktree]

@Shaz51 

How are you? Sounds like you had a productive day.

Meggle