12-12-2021 03:15 PM
12-12-2021 03:15 PM
Hi there,
I am new to these forums and have also recently even diagnosed with BPD. While initially the diagnosis was quite overwhelming, after doing some more reading and chatting with my psychologist about it, it has provided some clarity around the struggles I have had over the past 20+ years.
It may sound strange but it's been almost comforting reading through the posts here and reading about people experiencing such similar things. Thank you to everyone here for being so open and honest about your experiences with BPD.
12-12-2021 04:03 PM
12-12-2021 04:22 PM
12-12-2021 04:22 PM
Thank you!
That means a lot. I have been feeling quite alone recently, especially since I've pushed most people away out of my life and have really been isolating myself since taking time off work over the past couple of months due to my deteriorating mental health. I think being able to try and build some connections, especially with people who might be able to offer some understanding could be really beneficial at the moment. I feel like I have so much to process and so many questions but no one to really talk to about it.
12-12-2021 05:05 PM
12-12-2021 05:05 PM
Hi @Gem17 ,
I'm so glad you've found us. Being given the BPD diagnosis was also a comfort to me because it sort of gave a 'reason' why I was behaving the way I was.
The next step was, what do I do? This was a decade journey in itself!
Fast forward, I've overcome the most challenging time of my BPD journey. I wouldn't exchange it for anything because I've learnt so much and have met so many amazing people.
BPD is a journey of discovery - discovery of self and others.
You are not alone.
BPDSurvivor
12-12-2021 05:10 PM
12-12-2021 05:10 PM
Thats where I currently am, wondering what to do next. I feel like there is so much to take in and process, which is something I find difficult at the best of times but even harder when I'm struggling with most aspects of life like I am at the moment. I'm struggling to make decisions and verbally communicate with people at the moment. I feel like I just need people to tell me what to do, even though I know that's not realistic. Sorry, that turned into a kind of ramble of thoughts...
12-12-2021 05:14 PM
12-12-2021 05:14 PM
@Gem17, no need to be sorry my friend , we are here for you every step of everyday xxx
12-12-2021 05:15 PM - edited 12-12-2021 06:30 PM
12-12-2021 05:15 PM - edited 12-12-2021 06:30 PM
That's totally okay and absolutely valid. When things are tough, it's not about thinking of the future. It admit how to get through the NOW.
When things lighten up a little, then by all means, look into supports for BPD. BPD recovery takes time. It's a slow moving illness which requires a lot of psychotherapy for changes to be seen.
But right now, don't stress too much about it. By all means, use this space to practice articulating your thoughts and feelings. That way, hopefully it will be easier to communicate them verbally to therapists... of course, no obligation. Only if you think it'll help.
Ill stand with you @Gem17 ,
BPDSurvivor
12-12-2021 06:20 PM
12-12-2021 06:20 PM
Thank you! I think having this as a safe place to share what I'm experiencing and to ask questions that I worry others will find silly or frustrating will definitely help me find the confidence to communicate with the professionals when the time comes. This community you have all created is really special.
12-12-2021 08:06 PM - edited 12-12-2021 08:11 PM
12-12-2021 08:06 PM - edited 12-12-2021 08:11 PM
Hello @Gem17 and
@Shaz51, @BPDSurvivor , @Judi9877 , @Kbomb
Welcome to the forum and we hope that it will be a place where you may find some comfort, as you describe in your introduction.
As you may possibly imagine, from the experience of engaging with forum members and their struggles and achievements, that it does not sound at all strange to those who have been connected with the forum for a while, to hear you reflect on a sense of comfort and possibly reassurance, that at last you know that you are definitely not on your own and that there are identifiable reasons for what you describe as
"the struggles I have had over the past 20+ years."
It is also pleasing to know, with the work that you have already done, on your own and with your psychologist, that you have come a long way across the bridge, between where you have been, and an awareness of the positives in front of you, and possibly the difficulties that you may face, because of your inner awareness.
It is also good to know that you certainly seem to be receptive to further information and observations that will allow you to put in and get the most from your life in the future.
With My Very Best Wishes
P.S.
I have added the following tips which I hope will be of help in using the functions of the forum. If you have any problems just ask from wherever you are and someone should be able to assist. These tips will make more sense as you become familiar with the site.
Accessing and Responding to "Your Notifications"
Toward the top right of the forum page, to the right of Guidelines & Info, is placed the word New .
Authentication Failed.
Copy the whole of the message that you have typed into the message box, refresh ⟳ the page {top left of browser window}, and then paste the copied message back into the reply box; complete the message and click POST once, and click POST again.
When you are copying from the reply box, before refreshing, I believe that forum addresses do "copy and paste" back into the same refreshed reply box properly.
{The process above is what I had to do with this message because I took so long to write the message. That is when the dreaded "Authentication Failed" message most often appears}
Another way of avoiding the dreaded "Authentication Failed" message is to write the message in your word processor {Microsoft Word, Appache OpenOffice Writer, etc} and then "copy and paste" the text from the word processor into the reply box.
Caution: I believe that forum addresses do not copy and paste properly from the word processor, so it is best to enter all forum addresses directly into the reply box.
That should complete the message process unless there are any other error messages that require attention.
Cheers @HenryX
15-12-2021 10:12 PM
15-12-2021 10:12 PM
Hi @Gem17 @Kbomb @Magnolia @Carlo @LearningWaters
I just wanted to check in with you to see how you are, and welcome you here to our community of people with BPD and carers of pwBPD.
I admire and thank all those who care for someone with BPD. I know it can be like walking on eggshells, and yet the rewards can be tremendous. Thank you!
If you have any questions, please feel free to ask. We are BPD experts by experience. Also, if you have time, have a browse through the posts from page 1 here. It may give you some interesting BPD insights.
BPDSurvivor
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