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Managing thoughts of suicide & self-harm

Battles

rav3n
Peer Support Worker

Re: Battles

@Dreamy phew glad they don't live with you, but still really upsetting and frustrating that there's no services that can help. did services mention why they can't? 

 

which colouring were you working on? wish there was a de-shaker machine that made our bodies relax instantly, i'd buy us some. do you own onesies or oodies? sometimes layering up makes it harder to shake but also i don't want you to overheat haha

Dreamy
Senior Contributor

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@rav3n I've been given various reasons as to why they won't help, being told it's too complicated is common, or i just get told there's nothing we can do or i just don't hear back even after making contact several times. 

 

I started a new colouring tonight. If only there was such a thing. I have oodies but rarely wear them as I get too hot, I've got a weighted blanket around me at the moment but it's just not enough to bring the body into a calm state. 

rav3n
Peer Support Worker

Re: Battles

ahhh i'm SOOO frustrated FOR YOU!! @Dreamy but i'm so glad you found the forums. even though we're limited on what we can do to support you, we're lucky to gain a member like you 💙

 

oo nice! keen to see how it turns out! i know right, we come up with such amazing invention ideas on the forums... yet people are out there wasting money on ridiculous inventions like Bluetooth face masks. 

weighted blanket sounds good, i keep forgetting to buy one!! how heavy are those blankets? 

Dreamy
Senior Contributor

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@rav3n I'm thankful to have found the forums, it's the only support I have. Thankyou ❤️.

 

I'm surprised I'm still able to keep colouring, I do it during the day and at night and yet my hand doesn't seem to get sore, well other than when my nails dig into my hand 😂. Bluetooth facemasks? How do people come up with these things 😂.

 

They vary in weight and you usually go by your bodyweight as to what size you get. Most of mine are 9kg. 

rav3n
Peer Support Worker

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omg did you somehow become immune to hand cramps and nail digging !? @Dreamy haha idk how you do it, my hand cramps us sooo fast with drawing/colouring... evening writing!

 

i know right!?!? people never fail to surprise me!!

 

ooo okay, good to know when i go buy mine hehe. i gotta hop off, take care and good nightttt 💙

Dreamy
Senior Contributor

Re: Battles

@rav3n i get cramps sometimes but that's cos of how i hold my pencils/pens. I think cos I've been doing it everyday it's just getting easier to do. 

 

There's some crazy things out there that's for sure. 

 

Thanks for everything tonight, i hope you have a good night and weekend. Night night ❤️ 

MJG017
Senior Contributor

Re: Battles


@Dreamy wrote:

@rav3n i waited almost an hour and a half for a 10 minute chat then the person was like I don't know how i can help you and ended the chat. Well now I'm frustrated on top of what I was already feeling.

@DreamyI'm not sure what service this was, but I would say they weren't very well trained and not that great at their job.  I don't want to throw anyone under the bus here, especially not know all of the context, but just from the outside it seems to me that it wouldn't be that hard to just say "It sounds like it such an incredibly difficult situation for you. I'm sorry, but I don't really know what to suggest to you, but i'm here to listen to you if you think that would help you right now."

 

It doesn't seem like that difficult a thing to come up with, even without any training.  I'm sorry they were so dismissive towards you.

 


 

Dreamy
Senior Contributor

Re: Battles

@MJG017 the majority of that 10 minutes was me telling them what's going on, they only sent 5 messages and then decided it was too much effort to deal with me. It's just frustrating when you wait so long only to be let down. Exactly, sometimes just having that space to share what's going on and knowing someone cares enough to listen can be helpful. But at the moment it's getting dicey with my thoughts and urges and even sharing that and going into more depth and detail on it they still decide that its not worth even trying to support me. 

 

Anyway it's over and done with. How was the escape room last night?

MJG017
Senior Contributor

Re: Battles

@Dreamy 

Now that i've done 15 seconds of training, the first thing that they tell you is that you're not there to fix anything.  You're role is to just support people and offer them options if there are any, but really just to allow people to feel safe and validate their feelings.  Build some trust and listen and support people with whatever they decide to do after you've talked about hose options and benefits and disadvantages.  If nothing else, to just listen.

 

I know it's so hard, and you're certainly in an incredibly difficult situation, so don't let one person being scared off like that make you think you're not worth listening to and supporting.  You are.  Even if that is just to give you a space to vent or talk.

 

The escape room was okay.  I'll be happy if i never have to fiddle with another combination lock again! 😂  We actually solved it with a couple of minutes to spare, so it was successful.  It was quite dark in the first area though, so how you're supposed to get the right combination on the little locks without a torch on your phone is puzzling in itself.  All they said was that we could take our phone in with us or put them in a locker.  I think they should say someone would take a phone in case you need a little more light.  It was also a little chaotic in our group of 5 because people just went off doing their own thing.  It would have been much easier if everyone just listened to me and did what i said! 🤣

Dreamy
Senior Contributor

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@MJG017 think alot of the people I've spoken to need to go back through the training. Hell I haven't done any training and yet I seem to have more of an understanding of what should and shouldn't be done or said. 

 

That's the thing though, it's not just one person, it's happened time and time again. It takes so much strength to reach out when you are feeling vulnerable and yet I've been made to feel like my feelings aren't valid and that I'm not worthy of anyone's time. 

 

But combination locks are fun 😂. Glad it was ok though. You'd think common sense would be to suggest to keep your phone in case you need the extra light. Why do people never listen to those that know what they are doing 😂.

 

My head and hand is sore, yes I lost my sh!t at myself. Can't get help or support so I get angry and frustrated and take things out on myself. 

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