im back..... i think

[outlander]

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope 💖

Mmm probably not im doing another course at the moment

I dont know. I think im.better being by myself at the moment at least i cant annoy or dissapoint anyone

[outlander]

@Faith-and-Hope everyone keeps telling me to do get a job but i have a job its like caring to them isnt a job. Is it a job?

Get a life they say but when i try to do something i get in trouble for it. Even my art im ashamed to show

[Former-Member]

hello @outlander @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope

clearly not packed by a man laugh xx

[Former-Member]

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@mohill wrote:

hello @outlander @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope

clearly not packed by a man laugh xx

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above in relation to picture of car

you cant half tell I have no sense of direction

responses landing anywhere!

outlander have a wonderful dreamy holiday in the barossa with nooks and faith xx

[outlander]

Haha lol @Former-Member
You can join us to if you like anony18 is coming with us too

In what i just wrote to F&H do u think caring a real job

[Anony18]

HI @outlander - what @Faith-and-Hope said is true. Sometimes we need recognise when we just to agree to disagree with people. Everyone's opinions differ and if they are adamant theirs is right you will never get anywhere. 

As for you question on is caring a job....well yeah it is! It is a very tough one. Probably tougher than the normal day job I am at. It is like a full time mother - she may not work in the outside world and earn the $$ that someone on the outside pays her but it is definitely a full time job and one that is exhausting. So yes caring is a full time job and unfortunately it isn't one that we choose to get into but one that have chosen us. It takes alot of courage and resilience to be a carer and we struggle but look at the positive side - you still choosing to be a carer because of the strong individual you are, although you may not think so. 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Well said @Anony18 .... ❣️

[Former-Member]

@outlander

your question: is caring a real job?

my answer: caring is the most underrated, overworked, overstressed, least appreciated, least acknowledged    25hours a day   career.

is it real???? you are on the Carers forum!!!

If you are feeling sensitive, bullied, not appreciated, dismissed, not heard there is a possibility that things are jumping at you which normally would not bother you.

Others are trying to suggest with the warmest, best intentions to take some time out for yourself.

Remove yourself from toxic situations. You cant change others but you can change what you subject yourself to, you can change who you welcome into your life as true friends, people who treat you with respect, who treat you the way you treat others.

Time to let go of those toxic bullies. Walk away they have the problem it is theirs. Do not feed the monsters that is exactly what keeps them going, a reaction.

Your family are not understanding. Dont discuss it with them anymore. some family members do not listen because they are too busy thinking about how they are affected. Don't waste energy.

You are not alone in this thousands of people go through this stuff.

Read some of the other carer posts.

[Former-Member]

I agree with @Former-Member and @Faith-and-Hope
Whilst I think you are brave to try and face them, I don't know if it's worth all the pain it's putting you through. If the outcome you want is for them to just leave you alone, then perhaps stepping away, distracting yourself from thinking about it, and not giving them the time of day would be a good way to go about it. You could go back to your cheery "good mornings" and then not give them any more of your time or attention? xxx

[outlander]

@Former-Member@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@Anony18

yeah im just leaving the bullies as they are. Im avoiding them and im also looking for a new aggistment place because its too ahrd for me to be there and thats what my mother doesnt seem to get. She keeps telling me to go and do th horses but I cant go down there- even the thought of it give me anxiety. I really dont want to be there and I know I have to go there today as I ahvent been for a few days and mums not going to be happy when I say I ahvent been and cleaned out the paddock for 3 days- oops, and nope im not talking to my family about anythign anymore- I cant do anythign right by them anyway so may as well keep everythign to myself. This ahppened when I told them about a few others things too- its ALWAYS my fault so no use arguing there
im not going to speak to thema t all- im only going to the paddock when I really have to or for my sisters benefit and thats it. Im not talking to them, associating with them and im avoiding the times they are there which seem to be constantly changing which makes it difficult

and ok- I get your points about being a carer- thanks