@skyburial That is indeed a dillemma. As you say, regular interaction with others is indeed "normal". I guess the big question that comes to mind is: Is "normal" what's right for you? I only ask because I know that plenty of people have discovered that trying to force themselves into the basket of "normalcy" made them very unhappy and ultimately decided that they were much happier embracing their natural "abnormality" (for lack of a better way of saying it) and doing what was right for themselves.
The employment issue is a tricky one. As you indicate, it's all but impossible to get employment without proper contacts, and even if you get a job, odds are that it will require a fair degree of human interaction (although I believe there are some that involve a minimal amount of human interaction).
All I can suggest there is that you try to take care that you aren't "spinning your wheels" in social interactions that won't ultimately lead you into a job that suits you. If social interactions are indeed as difficult for you as you say, then it's probably a good idea to make sure that putting yourself through all that unpleasantness/trauma actually amounts to something. Maybe things work differant for you, but for me, every unpleasant/traumatic experiance I had to slog through for absolutely zero benefit took something out of me. It made the world feel more hopeless; made me a little more intollerant/impatient and made it much harder to try again, until eventually I just got to a point where pretty much every gamble that's presented to me these days just can't be justified.
Needless suffering for needless suffering's sake... it just breaks you. But as I say, that's me. Perhaps you are differant? If you are lucky, perhaps you are immune; beyond the risk of debilitating demoralization.
I can't offer any tips, I'm afraid, on how to identify the social arrangements that lead to employment. All I can suggest is that you trust your instincts; particularly if you get the sense that you are just being exploited. If you get that feeling, trust it, and do your best to get out of the situation as soon as you can.
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