Hi @the-janelane. I don't think we've 'met' before so a hi from me 🙂
I read your post really appreciating your honesty and the insight and self-awareness you clearly have. I can imagine it would be difficult to have such an understanding of yourself while experiencing a lack of understanding from others. There are lots of people here who live with BPD and a lot of understanding on the forum. It's great to see you here.
I'm wondering whether you've ever heard of "quiet" BPD? It is something I learned about here from people who live with BPD and who experience some/many of the thoughts and feelings that can go with BPD, but without some of the more visible or outward symptoms or signs. Perhaps it could help to have a read up on it (a quick search on Google gave me a few results), and see whether you can relate to some of it.
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