Feeling helpless is something I reckon most of us carers are all too familiar with as is feeling as though we don't say anything right 😬 .
Doing something that will contribute to meeting our own needs can help with this. Having a bit of a dummy spit here on the forum is often helpful too. I personally aim for the laugh option after a lot of tears.
You mention your husband has support - do you have any for yourself? Getting support for ourselves can make a huge difference.
I will tag you in some threads so you can 'meet' some other carers. We have a few social threads where lighthearted chatter with other knowing others can help distract. Have you any hobbies or interests?
PS There are a few of us here who care for our long term partners.
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