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Hi @Bluepagan and everyone has a story. You can share yours here 🙂

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Hey @tyme 

Thanks for your message.

 

I think the frustration was mostly due to the fact I had started a medication and I am not a fan of medications. I had it for more than a month, I filled it one day and was sitting at the chemist for another 3 days! LOL

Took the recommended dose and after 3 days it was not agreeing with me. I decided to half the dose. It appears to be ok.

On top of that, thinking that I may have ADHD and how it has effected me so far in life and all the road blocks it has put in front of me is a bit upsetting.

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How are you feeling today @miniACDC ?

 

I'm sorry the meds didn't agree with you.

 

Have you spoken to your prescribing doctor about it?

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Hey everyone.

Not having much luck with support within the community so am checking out what online resources are available. I'll try not to share too much but there's a lot going on.

 

I'm early 40's (M), I've struggled most of my life with Depression but it's got worse the last few years - to the point where I had to stop working due to various health issues. I'm unhappy and unfulfilled, and I am finding very little joy in everyday activities.

 

I have Depression and Anxiety, and last year I was diagnosed with Autism, and Avoidant Personality Disorder. I also have elements of Body Dysmorphia and OCD.

 

I've seen high end Psychiatrists, but have not responded to various medications, have see multiple therapists over the years (largely uneventful), I was an in patient at a private hospital and had TMS (which didn't work), and have tried many life hacks and supplements but always end up in the same spot. I'm miserable, and exhausted.

 

I was approved for the NDIS earlier this year but things move very slowly, and I haven't actually been able to access any supports as yet. 

 

After we had kids I felt my wife of 20 years slipping away as kids became her sole focus. I was in a sexless marriage for over 3 years, sleeping in separate bedrooms. I tried to communicate to my wife but to no avail. She was later diagnosed with Cancer, which obviously didn't help the situation and I felt bad for speaking up about my own needs.

 

I wanted to address the issues in a professional environment but my wife refused to go to couples therapy with me (which I considered a deal breaker) so we have now separated although we are still currently living together because I can't afford to get a place on my own at the moment and we are "generally" on good terms so this is what we have agreed is best (for now).

 

In saying that, she often overrides me and undermines my efforts when I try to parent my children, and due to a lack of self confidence and wanting to avoid conflict in front of the children I back down. So am having a hard time with parenting. My kids are also causing me a lot of anxiety because I don't really want to be around them when I am depressed, and unfortunately I am depressed more often than not.

 

I don't have any friends IRL and have a small family. I was very close to my Mum but she passed away this year. My Mum, and my (ex) wife were the most important people in my support network.

 

I have had acne most of my life, on and off. But for the last 2 years have been suffering from increased acne which has affected the way I feel about myself. Because it has been ongoing for over 25 years I think it brings up some type of trauma response in me. I am on acne medication and have tried earnestly to manage the symptoms, for example working with a men's health GP to look at my hormones, multiple sessions with dermatologist(s) and laser treatment, seeing a dietitian and doing elimination diets such as going dairy free, gluten free, sugar free, low GI foods, and also cutting out alcohol. Still, the acne persists and suffering from acne as a male in his forties is very disheartening and I hate the way that I look.

 

I have been alcohol free for about 400 days now, but I feel like I am at that point where I want to have a drink over the xmas period. When I mentioned this to my (ex) wife she was not happy and basically scolded me for even suggesting it. I don't know if I will or not, but I originally cut it out to see if it would improve my acne and it hasn't. However I do value my sobriety and I know that being sober is the best choice, given my poor mental health. By the same token, I also want to give myself permission to make my own decisions, and mistakes.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

 

 

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Hey @WizardMotor ,

 

Welcome to the forums! Great to see you have made it this far and we appreciate you being so honest and open about your experiences.

 

It sounds like you have been through quite a few challenges. 

 

" I also want to give myself permission to make my own decisions, and mistakes." This is such a powerful realisation. Thank you for sharing.

 

I just want to also say well done on the sobriety. I recognise it is not an easy feat!

 

I hope you get the support on the forums that you deserve.

 

Tagging a few members who may want to say hi @MJG017 @Macey @Oaktree @Shaz51 

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Hello and welcome @WizardMotor 

My husband has had lots of different diagnosis over the years and this year he was diagnosed with ASD autism,  adhd 

How do you feel with autism? 

@Jynx , what is the ASD thread called 🤔 

@tyme 

 

 

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@Shaz51 @WizardMotor Allo allo! 

 

You're after the ASD Social Space😊

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Hey @Shaz51 

To be honest I don't feel much about it really. I read some people experience all sorts of aha moments and suddenly everything makes sense. I didn't experience any of that. 

 

How does your husband feel about everything, sounds like he's been on a bit of a merry go round as well?

 

I haven't been able to access any ASD specific supports, or find a community to engage with. I am hoping to do that in the near future.

 

I've wondered if even that is a misdiagnosis but my research tells me, and the psychologist that did my assessment confirmed that they are essentially fool proof and somebody couldn't "cheat" on it. I certainly know I'm wired differently so am content with this diagnosis. 

 

My (ex) wife also chose not to read my diagnosis report and even though I have tried to tell her about high masking, and other Autistic traits she doesn't seem to believe I am Autistic so we don't really talk about it. Her point of view is, "but you were fine for 20 years".

 

Thx @Jynx for the link.