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22-10-2019 08:38 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT
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22-10-2019 08:40 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT
@Adge I am glad you have that safe space with your psychologist.
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22-10-2019 08:41 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT
Focusing on "Being mindful of" (really noticing) what the person is saying - can help me to bear the strong emotions that I'm feeling.
For example, when being triggered by someone or something.
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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT
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22-10-2019 08:44 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT
@Adge Yes noticing is powerful and not attaching any meaning to what we're noticing. Just witnessing and then letting go.
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22-10-2019 08:45 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT
Do others relate to these fears? What kind of strategies do you use to help this?-- yes @Lauz , @Daphne
with both my husband and my mum
I will put it in the different levels of degrees
somethings need to be done now but other things I can leave and bring it up in the futher closer to when we need to make a decission
other times I will leave mum and my husband a suggestion to help them be part of the things that might happen
I find writting them down to when to bring things up or to let things go
I am still learning , i have made a couple of too sudden decission but overall it is getting better xx
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22-10-2019 08:45 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT
I'm doing a "Trauma-focused Yoga" course, starting next week @Daphne @Lauz @Shaz51
It's a 5 week course (small group), especially for people with Complex PTSD & trauma backgrounds.
I find yoga helpful, I've been doing twice weekly yoga classes, for the past 8 years.
Yoga incorporates some Mindfulness too.
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22-10-2019 08:45 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT
On a side note a bit I think it helps when you know yourself well what you can and can’t do as a carer. Fairly recently I have made a friend who has complex mh issues too. I knew my natural inclination would be to be her carer but I also knew my mh is not stable. I spoke to my therapist about it and came up with some boundaries about how this friendship would work best. I then discussed them with my friend so we had some security around dealing with our mh. It was basically that I dealt with mine using my supports and she used her supports for hers. We both know that we have supports that are not each other. It is working well. When we catch up we can talk about our week and mh but it’s not the focus of the friendship. Enjoying each other’s company is more important, and sometimes that includes the dark and heavy too and sometimes it’s just talking about random things. I know this is not a carer thing as such but I thought I’d share.
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22-10-2019 08:47 PM
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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT
I like this @Shaz51 it sounds like you have developed a way of timing things now and sometimes delaying your responses. This is a helpful strategy to alleviate that sense of urgency.
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