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Lonely as a carer

So many other posts seem so harder than mine, it almost seems indulgent of me to seek support. But I still do!

I know when things are bad for him when his voice is cold to me. I knew 30 years ago things weren't right with him and I chose to stick with him. Just a very lonely life sometimes. He falls out with others so most friends fade away


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It is not indulgent to seek support.  Relationships are often difficult for people with MI and despite wanting friendships they often push people away.  


A little bit different to parent/child or siblings, couples do tend to have the same group of friends and some find it difficult to go places without the other. This is where an interest group can be helpful. Going to a craft group, garden club, exercise class etc without ones significant other is a great place to meet like minded people and heading out for coffee with one or more of the bowling/ bridge/ etc girls can be a path to a friendship. 


It is often hard to take that first step and go to something, but I have found that when I do, I have found there are others out there in need of a friend.




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Hey there @Bobkat  I am sorry to hear of this loneliness you hold. We hear you and want you to know you're not alone among this community Heart


As with @Darcy, skill based hobbies can be a really good form of self care and generally a potential outlet for socialising. It's important you feel supported too, not just your husband. Feel free to phone the SANE Help Centre weekdays between 10am-10pm if you want a confidential chat with the counsellors too, we're here to listen.

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hi @Bobkat and welcome
being a carer can be very lonely and isolating sometimes esp when life seems to be on repeat. same things different day sort of thing.
would joining a carers group or other interest group be helpful? some time just for you to spend time with friends as well.

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How are things going @Bobkat ?


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Hello @Bobkat 

I am just about to delete this post as you or other might find it irrelevant..


it is heartbreaking for me..

I too feel that I am on the outer in regards to the carer definition even though I am repeatedly told otherwise..

my family member has been reported missing again and my connection via mobile transforms from hello response hello how are you...I am stressed...then...I need money..or any or many deflammatory comments about certain people .as far as world wide..

we feel alone and question...

yet I have a sense that we are not alone...

our health system in this country is archaic when it comes to matters of the mind...

this country can learn so much from the nordic countries.,..

I just now have learnt to set personal boundaries at the same time reinforcing my love which normally is not heard...

it is a totally different world that is inexplainable yet we do the best we can.

we love..

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