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13-08-2020 12:34 AM
13-08-2020 12:34 AM
A stranger to myself. I don't understand.
Hi,
I don't talk much. I just came here to ramble about what's happening for me. I have to keep things together every day but at night I just feel like I need somewhere to shed everything.
I had a serious mental breakdown very recently. No offended, please do not mention hospital or medication. All I really need is a listening ear.
I was done with everything and I just completely snapped. Came very close to ending my relationship. I know I'm not crazy. I've had a few mental breakdowns in my life. This time it's different. I literally do not feel like the same person I was before. I can feel myself changing so much.
I still feel immense anger, a lot of uncertainty, no will to try too much with anything, moody, lost, sad, worried, confused, hurt, lonely, alone and no energy for many things that I would fight for or tolerate before.
I know what led up to the mental breakdown and there is just way too much. I know my relationship needs work, it is just so much hard work to keep myself going every minute of everyday.
I don't want to ramble too much. I'm not in recovery phase yet, I don't actually know where I'm at. All I know is it is hard to feel good. I've just completely shut down. I start some therapy in a few weeks and addressing the nervous breakdown will be where I'm starting.
I guess all I really wanted by writing here is to be heard and that's it. I'm doing the best I can to help myself.
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13-08-2020 01:33 AM
13-08-2020 01:33 AM
Re: A stranger to myself. I don't understand.
Hi there!
Just wanted to say, go easy on yourself. Take breaks to breath from time to time. Don't push too hard 🙂 Starting therapy is the first step and a difficult one to take. You are already very brave for doing so.
Hope everything gets better 😄
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13-08-2020 07:05 AM
13-08-2020 07:05 AM
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13-08-2020 07:29 AM
13-08-2020 07:29 AM
Re: A stranger to myself. I don't understand.
@Powderfinger Welcome to the forums.
I just want to let you know I hear you.
@sayi Welcome to the forums also.
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13-08-2020 08:50 AM
13-08-2020 08:50 AM
Re: A stranger to myself. I don't understand.
Welcome to the forums @Powderfinger
and you too @sayi
@Powderfinger I very much hear you.... and can relate to how you are feeling..
I as well of many other wonderful people are here in this forum to listen.... get it out... get it off your chest .... share your thoughts and feelings.... we are here for you
you may not always get a response or answer straight away.... but be comforted knowing someone will be around soon
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13-08-2020 09:46 AM
13-08-2020 09:46 AM
Re: A stranger to myself. I don't understand.
Hi and welcome, @Powderfinger . It's good you've joined the forums, where you can write how you feel and get some listening ears.
@Powderfinger wrote:I still feel immense anger, a lot of uncertainty, no will to try too much with anything, moody, lost, sad, worried, confused, hurt, lonely, alone and no energy for many things that I would fight for or tolerate before.
I can hear how bad you feel...I really hope you start to feel better soon. Good luck with your upcoming therapy appointment...
A handy forum tip is if you type @ and then click on a member's name in the drop-down box, they will get a notification that you're replying to them.
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13-08-2020 10:26 AM
13-08-2020 10:26 AM
Re: A stranger to myself. I don't understand.
Hi @Powderfinger. It really sucks that you are feeling so awful. I hope being able to express your experience and have some support from this community helps a little bit. I can relate to the idea of feeling like a stranger to yourself.. I've felt it a bit this year at times, it's really weird. For me that feeling always passes and is usually more present when I feel upset about how things are going. But that's just my experience. I hope you find the therapy helpful and keep reaching out.
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14-08-2020 01:17 AM
14-08-2020 01:17 AM
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@sayi thank you.
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14-08-2020 01:18 AM
14-08-2020 01:18 AM
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@Maggie thank you.
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14-08-2020 01:42 AM
14-08-2020 01:42 AM
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Thank you. I'm not sure how much I'm allowed to write here.
I had a mental breakdown (3rd one this year) because the last eight months I can't even describe. It started on December 1st last year and snowballed from there.
* cut all contact with my mother * younger sister does not speak to me at all since October last year * lost my precious and much loved niece, which really ripped me apart. In short, mother and sister do not encourage her keeping in touch with me. * I have zero family, total zero. That was all I had left* Relocated three times in the last nine months which includes an interstate move, 3000 kilometres away* Just made another big move one month ago today (thankfully this is very permanent) * met my now partner on the very day I cut contact with my mother, although at that stage I did not know we would become a couple* relocated interstate in January of this year, big move, didn't have time to adjust much. About a month later, I got unwell mentally as I was realising the 34 years of abuse from all three family members, mother, father, sister and I just really lost it. I was not in a good place. Managed to get myself together somewhat but don't think I recovered truly. Tried therapy. Had a mental breakdown and just couldn't cope. My partner put me through some hell I did not deserve on top of it so was faced with triggers and I do have C PTSD. I was going to try some other things and then Corona virus hit so that took away a lot of chances for me to get support.
I had a really terrible experience of Facebook bullying by a pack of people in a group. I wasn't coping with the Corona Virus and all the restrictions as many of the things I would do to help me, I couldn't.
So come August, I don't know I just completely broke. I had nothing left. No energy for anything anymore. I was very much just done.
Now, I'm in a position where although I have my partner, that is all I have till therapy starts again. I know I'm not the same anymore and I won't go back to who I was. You just know sometimes. I'm at this pivotal moment in my career that I have worked so hard for and I have had a mental breakdown. I'm not sure what is so hard for people to understand about it. Mental. Breakdown. Kind of self explanatory if you think about it. I'm so tired, it's not a matter of having no strength to fight, it's a matter of being tired of the fight.