SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

[Faith-and-Hope]

Morning @Former-Member ...... 💙💐💕

So sorry to hear your friend has responded that way .....

Is the property still under the care of an agent ?  Can you ask whether they can arrange someone to come and water for you periodically for a small fee ?  

If so, maybe you can send another card to your friend apologising that you have been so busy with your Dad that you have left her feeling unappreciated for what she was doing, but you have now spoken to the agent about trying to find someone else .... but only do this if there actually is someone else available.  Your friend might jump at the chance if she is feeling worn out too, so the option has to be a reality.

Hugs @Former-Member

❤️ @soul .....

[Former-Member]

Morning @Former-Member,

I am glad to see you have some great responses here from @soul and @Faith-and-Hope but so sorry about the difficulties your friend has caused you. Sounds like a very triggering time. 

Keep connecting here for support but if you need some one on one support, don't hesitate to contact the helpline - they will be open from 10am. 

[jay2]

Just got over one. Good one day and the next day paralysed by the cold weather,couldn't move couldn't think. Had to go to bed for 3 days. got over it by sitting outside in the sun every day until I felt I was over it. I expect to fall victim again before the winter is over but I will get out in the sun as soon as I feel winters freezing fingers upon me. Iv'e taken to wearing a beanie out side when I am in the garden now. It helps

[soul]

Hey @Former-Member - just checking in on you. Hope you're okay and was able to sort something out with your Qld home.

 

[Former-Member]

Hi @jay2,  welcome to the forums 👍.  Yes winter is here 😖😭😞😩😢😖💤  There's  no escaping it.  But good you plan to get some sunshine 👍. 

Hi @Soul,  lovey image thank you ❤  Im ok.  Got a headache just this minute.  Go

[Shaz51]

Hello @Former-Member, @soul, @jay2 

[Former-Member]

Hi my SAD friends & those checking in (far & few between these days but take what i can get). LOL had to chuckle at a comment my son put in an email: "you seem much more stable lately" (while living with / caring for dad this last x6 months). Interesting how ppl see us. Hes pretty critical of me actually (looka for fault) but part of me is saying "what would you know? " i've been so hurt by him and ppl closest to me. Its like theyre being uses by evil to destroy me - so disregarding. An example of this is giving my son $1000 to help fly him to nans funeral. He chose to stay with my toxic sister & her boys x3 out of the four days & slept moat his 18hrs with me. Its sometimes like they deliberately do things to pierce me through. But accept for sis who is schemingly vindictive / knows better, most people just selfish nongivers and use us up. So holding back the giving a little has become a survival thing now, for me. Not getting so 'hurt' - Stop feeding the monster of despair. I think my son notices i'm not so easily hurt (outwardly reactive) to his cruel comments - in his mind this makes me "more stable" - in his eyes.

One good thing about getting older and tired... is not having enough energy - body intelligence kicks in and blocks the anxiety & overreacting. Just dont have the energy.

Only last night my son rang while walking home from work and when i xommented it was hard to hear him over the traffic, ppl talking & what sounded like dropping his phone in a fishbowl, he blasted me about complaining again and to put up with it as this is the only timeslot he has to talk with me for another week... Part of me felt hurt (again), cause I've been trying to ring him for a week and long to connect, but yes well, the pain doesnt help. Like everything wrong in his life is cause of me. I wonder if he'll miss me when i die. I work at 'dying to self' more with him than anyone in the whole world. Only God knows how hard its been.

At my psych session i found myself blurting out again how how my son would be better off if i die - he'll get the house... What i'm really trying to say is that i'm too much trouble for him or anyone alive, or 'not good enough' and since my value as a human being (to them & most ppl) seems to rest in WHAT I HAVE TO OFFER THEM, then the house, things, money is more important than my essence... I dont really miss my mum, she WAS bitter and cruel, maybe i am the same. It all just gets so sad to dwell on.

Ha, just when i thought i was in a great place of denial - bro3 visits, puts history channel on tv and Nostradamas has apparently predicted 2018 start of WW3 when NewYork is hit by Nuclear Bomb. Well, just bloody great! my internal anxiety levels hit the roof, back stabbing Bro3 left announcing he'll call in later (after we already sacrificed our morning Cafe trip for his visit - now we have to wait for his return... which of cause didnt happen... ), anyway, wjo says theres no evil forces. If i were home i'd not let him in, but here they do have the right to visit dad, i guess, as toxic as it is for me - dad lights up a little to see them.

But what was i saying

Year, just wanna stay in bed...

Self care is slipping - as it does this time of year. Yesterday after a rare stream of x3 brief visiters, i realised i was still in the clothes i slept in (they dont know that), hadn't properly done my hair and
didnt have a bra on. And 'me'went to bed the same, without brushing teeth again. And here i am - woke 3am again, unable to fall back to sleep, like the last
few days... Not to mention the nightmares. But i did bring inDx2 loadsawashing fold & put away, and dishes, and lunch for Bro3, and dad is showered, clean, hydrated, medicated and fed / stable, and i love being here for him, but yes, needing to watch out for myself a bit better. Nobody else can.

[Former-Member]

Blar blar blar

[Faith-and-Hope]

❤️ @Former-Member .......

Here and listening ......

Wish they could all be kinder to you. Looks like you’re the only one with the kindness gene ...... sustained by faith .....

Hugs 🌻💕 ..... keep swimming...... 🐠

[Maggie]

@Former-Member I've only read your last post, the one before blah blah blah that is. I don't know why so many people trying giving their hardest keep getting used and hurt. I find this in my own life. I have a knack of picking people who will never be satisfies, even when I have  turned myself inside out for them. I've left my family behind, more survival than choice. 

Im dressed for the first time in days. I went out in my backyard yesterday and found washing on the line, its been there a while as I can't remember putting it there. Lol.

Anyway, hearing you for what it's worth.