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18-02-2018 10:58 AM
18-02-2018 10:58 AM
Post Partum Depression
I have a lengthy story to tell although I'm interested to hear from anybody else why is separated and/or with partner and because of severe post partum, has spent many nights away from the child (stays with my parents, not strangers), although have feelings of guilt. I love my 4 and a half year old to death although my experience during my pregnancy left me incredibly down, therefore have never connected with my child the way I should have. I didn't know that my depression could still have been affiliated with Postpartum Depression because my child is now nearly until I started doing some research and found that i well could be still affected by Postpartum...
Please I'm desperate to get somebody's feedback and/or anyone who has not been a part of the entirety of there child's life because of circumstances and Postnatal or Partum depression..
Am I the only one? Is this strange? I feel like a failure and that I have failed my daughter...
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18-02-2018 02:22 PM - edited 18-02-2018 02:26 PM
18-02-2018 02:22 PM - edited 18-02-2018 02:26 PM
Re: Post Partum Depression
Dear @Scarlet79,
of course you are not a failure. There are many different ways to be a loving, competent parent and leaving you child with your own parents is very common, even for those mothers who are not depressed.
I would just like to tag @PANDA and @Former-Member here, as they may have some specific advice about post-partum depression for you.
Depression before and after childbirth is relatively common in Australia and I think you will receive some very helpful replies from other members here. It is my understanding that the depression can continue for some time after the birth (even years), especially if it is not treated.... but I am no expert, I can only advise you here as a friend.
I have suffered from depression myself, but my experience was not related to having children. It was a very difficult time for me... I was lucky enough (or determined enough?) to find the right help.
Did you receive any treatment @Scarlet79? Are you seeing a psychologist?
Please feel free to keep writing and sharing your feelings.
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18-02-2018 04:01 PM
18-02-2018 04:01 PM
Re: Post Partum Depression
I know this isnt the same as your situation but wanted to reply as you have put forth so much. I too would suggest PANDA as a resource base and possible support too. I hope that it helps to reach out here and hope that others are able to share their stories too, keep sharing if it helps. Take care
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19-02-2018 02:11 PM - edited 19-02-2018 03:56 PM
19-02-2018 02:11 PM - edited 19-02-2018 03:56 PM
Re: Post Partum Depression
Hi @Scarlet79,
Thanks for sharing part of your story here on the forum. It takes a lot of courage to seek help and I'm glad you have been able to reach out and be supported by others.
Here at PANDA we talk to many mums and dads who've had a difficult journey through pregnancy and early parenthood, which has meant they're not able to be connected to their child in the way they had hoped. We know that feelings of guilt and failure like you've described are really common, and that it can be tough to make sense of it all.
I can also hear how much you love your daughter and want to be there for her. You're welcome to give us a call here at the PANDA Helpline, or you might like to have a look at some of the stories written by parents on our website (www.panda.org.au). Another great resource is the Raising Children Network (http://raisingchildren.net.au) which has some helpful info and some specific online forums too.
Wishing you and your daughter all the best @Scarlet79.
The PANDA team
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