I was talking with another mum yesterday who also has a daughter living in a dangerous space, for different but still MI related reasons. Dunno... I try to get on with day to day life, but every now and then I realise how far away from "normal" things actually are. (And talking to someone else who is trying to make "unreasonable" adjustments for their MI offspring kind of highlights that.)
I was looking around our yard yesterday evening, and mentally listing off what I've been planning to do out there. I don't think any of it sounds unrealistic, but its been unachievable to date. (Not saying that in the sense of "I give up". More in the sense of "Are my plans reasonable?".)
In the context of everyday "normal", a lot of it would have happened a long time ago. I'm aware that at whatever point things change, we'll probably undergo a slowly unfolding shock realisation of how much we're currently weighed down, in all parts of our lives. Probably goes for most of us Sane Forum carers.
Re: Supporting my wife who lives with Borderline Personality Disorder while maintaining self care.
@Darcy, I'm trying to break down the long term goals into achievable "small bites". My shed clearig schedule is one example. It'll be trickier when it comes to fixing up our house though. A lot of those tasks can't be "small bites", and building related permits have inbuilt time limits... but will cross those bridges when we get there.
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