Looking after ourselves
19-11-2023 11:41 AM
I’m a parent of a 20 year old who is experiencing OCD at a heightened level. She has been to emergency and hospital mental health but they said nothing can be done and keep looking privately. She says she wants help but when given help she doesn’t want it. She has had a wonderful upbringing with no obvious trauma. Like most 20 year olds she doesn’t want to be living at home and blames me for everything. I’m getting emotionally abused and I’m hurting. Her Dad (my husband) doesn’t get it much. I’m worried if I leave to refresh and rebuild my strength she will feel abandoned. If I stay then I will keep getting abused. We are all trying to stay calm but the household is hurting. She is constantly threatening to take her life so that makes me so anxious. Hospital and private practices all say unless she isn’t willing to take the help then they can’t help. What should I do?
19-11-2023 01:34 PM
Welcome to the forums 🙂 Thank you so much for sharing with us about what has been going on for you.
I can hear how much pain everything that is happening with your daughter is causing you and I acknowledge how much you are trying to make things work.
It sounds like your daughter is also having a hard time herself and it makes it harder when she isn't at a space right now to accept help.
Hugs to you.
Have you heard of these parent forums https://kidshelpline.com.au/parents/issues/my-circle-parents and ReachOut parents discussion forum. These parent forums can also offer you perspectives from other people who have navigated through experiences you share about.
Whilst you are navigating through what this is, are there ways you are taking care of yourself?
Please know you are not alone.
I'm here if you want a chat. Just tag me into your posts like this @fluffylight
Please take care of yourself.
21-11-2023 07:53 PM
My schizophrenia escalated when I was 17. Along with it I developed a severe ocd. I felt that if I didn’t write, I was going to lose my mind. It might depend a little on what her ocd is focussed on but for me, moving out was a godsend. I learned the hard way that it was my problem and I needed help. And in 2003, I was finally diagnosed.
If she can support herself, she might need to face it. On her own. I will always suffer to a certain extent but I can now control where I “place” my obsessions. And for the most part, they no longer control me. I admit, not an expert. I’m sorry you are suffering as well. It sounds like you might benefit from a specialists advice.