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26-11-2015 07:53 PM
26-11-2015 07:53 PM
I think I'm going to lose everything.
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26-11-2015 08:48 PM
26-11-2015 08:48 PM
Re: I think I'm going to lose everything.
Welcome to the forum, @EnergiserBunny7
It's great that you are reaching out for some support. Many people here will relate to what you are saying. Though I have a different diagnosis, I can relate to the mood swings, sadness and anger affecting relationships in my life. I wonder whether you are getting any ongoing treatment with a psychologist, psychiatrist or other health professional. It might help us to understand a little better if you are able to give some more details about your situation. Wishing you well and hoping you will keep posting.
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26-11-2015 09:18 PM
26-11-2015 09:18 PM
Re: I think I'm going to lose everything.
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26-11-2015 10:11 PM
26-11-2015 10:11 PM
Re: I think I'm going to lose everything.
Good to hear you are feeling a bit of a load off.
I know what you mean about hurting loved ones. My biggest regrets in life are to do with that.
I don't have any experience of trying to access dialectical behavioural therapy, but I have recently used Google searches to find the mental health care I need in my local area. After gathering some names of possible practitioners or clinics, I've then rung around to find out more, about costs, medicare rebates available, whether they could take me on. Then I went to my GP and asked them to refer me to the practitioner of my choice. This has worked well for me so far.
One other thing that might be worth mentioning from my experience with GPs is that dealing with mental health issues with them often seems to work better if you schedule a 'long appointment'. That way they are not having to get you in and out in 15 minutes and you might get a chance to talk a bit more, maybe say directly to them that you want to access DBT and can they help you with that. But you may have already been through this without getting anywhere...
I wonder if @Crazy_Bug_Lady or @Billamba have anything to add about living with BPD. Or if anyone else has any thoughts about accessing DBT.
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26-11-2015 11:44 PM
26-11-2015 11:44 PM
Re: I think I'm going to lose everything.
Hello @EnergiserBunny7
It sounds like you are battling witha lot at the moment .. keep believing in your study and relationship and go easier on yourself with judgement.
Apparently there are positive outcomes for those who do manage to apply the emotional regulation and distress tolerance skills.
There are a few options for DBT in Melbourne ... eg Spectrum is public but hard to get in to ... and the DBT clinic is private ... are you near a major city?
Does your partner realise how much you value him and that you are struggling to come to terms with a serious diagnosis?
Go gently with yourself while you organise support.
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27-11-2015 12:04 AM
27-11-2015 12:04 AM
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That's a really good idea, you should be so proud of yourself to get out there like that and gather your own data. I think it would make me feel a lot better if I could research my own therapist/treatment etc, I'd feel more in control instead of like a towel flapping in a clothesline. Thank you so much for the idea, and I'm really glad this is working for you, hopefully I can do the same.
Yes, I do book double appointments, but the doubles at my clinic are only 20 minutes, and they always check my asthma and arthritis health plans and medication, so by the time that's over, it still only leaves ten minutes and they've refused to let me book longer appointments. I've tried telling them to skip that and that I've got more important things to worry about, but my clinic seems a little funny with mental health issues.
If anyone else has anything to add, I would love that. Even just having you few people is a godsend. I've literally never even had someone like-minded to talk to about these things.
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27-11-2015 12:08 AM
27-11-2015 12:08 AM
Re: I think I'm going to lose everything.
I haven't been told much about DBT yet, but I need to try something. And yes, I live near Perth, or at least relatively close.
I do tell him as often as I can how much he means to me, and I try to show him the best I can, I just hope it works, because he really is my saving grace.
I will try to go easy on myself, thank you for your support.
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27-11-2015 12:20 AM
27-11-2015 12:20 AM
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I have often found it difficult to manage all my health issues in the times that the GP has allocated ... I go in with lists ... and am very clear etc ... but I think sometimes they also want to know their patient as people too ... the good GPs that is ..
There is also a website called the shack about BPD. Good Luck
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27-11-2015 12:22 AM
27-11-2015 12:22 AM
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I have zero clue how he puts up with me and I have even told him if he wants to leave me that's ok because I don't want this life for him but he just keeps telling me he loves me and I'm the most amazing person in the world. (I sometime think there's something wrong with him lol)
I feel really guilty by the way I treat him and I know deep down I don't want to treat him this way and I can hear your the same but something in me can't control my emotions yet.
So what I do when I'm feeling what I call human is I write nice notes to my partner telling him how much I appreciate him and value him or buy him everything he wants. It's only small windows but I think he apprishiates it and makes him feel valued.
I don't know what to suggest to stop doing it and letting out emotions on our partners. But I must say we are very lucky.
But my tip for when your feeling overwhelmed and like everything is literally spinning and you can feel every emotion in your body mixing together at once is to BREATH.
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27-11-2015 07:50 AM
27-11-2015 07:50 AM
Re: I think I'm going to lose everything.
Welcome to the forum @EnergiserBunny7. I'm very sorry to hear of the troubles you've experienced, and I just want to acknowledge the very helpful contributions of @Mazarita @Former-Member @Appleblossom in this thread. I'm glad to note that knowing there's other people who've experienced similar things makes you feel better.
I wonder if @catalytic @Rose11 can offer some insights into this as well?