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20-07-2016 06:46 PM
20-07-2016 06:46 PM
Confusion
What I am confused about is that my grandmother has to go into a nursing home and I want to be able to support my mum through it all but I'm just not sure how to because I'm scared that it is going to affect my depression!
Any advice will be grateful.
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20-07-2016 07:23 PM
20-07-2016 07:23 PM
Re: Confusion
A few suggestions: (& these depend on your coping abilities at the time)
*Offer to drive your mum to the nursing home (you can stay in car and read or meditate while she visits).
*If your mum has email - send her a message letting her know how much you love her (especially on the days she visits the nursing home)
*Send her some flowers / chocolates or a soft teddy bear (to hug if you ccannot be there)
*Phone her to let her know you are thinking of her.
I'm sure she will know you will help as you able to. & as we with MI know, it's wonderful when someone understands us & we can feel their love.
Some days you may not be able to do anything. Other days you may be able to just listen to her.
Good luck
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20-07-2016 09:01 PM
20-07-2016 09:01 PM
Re: Confusion
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21-07-2016 02:43 PM
21-07-2016 02:43 PM
Re: Confusion
Hi Rhumba,
Welcome to the forums. I can hear your distress around supporting mum in your grandmother’s move into care if you are not well. Rhumba I worked in one for some years and as @pip said aged care staff are very supportive. It’s a good idea to ask them any of your questions so they know your concerns (everyone has them). As you become familiar with the home you will see it’s not the care you and mum will be involved in unless you choice to, but just being there when you can. They will have activities grandma may like to join in and we loved it if families where involved but there were no expectations. Each family is different some work, some live elsewhere and others can only do what they can. As @utopia said you must be well yourself. Have you talked to Mum about how she is coping? You may be able to but some casual plans in place so you know what you would like to do when you are well, make sure your concern is well placed. Rhumba you sound like a very kind and understanding person thinking about mum, not everyone has that connection, insight and concern, but remember you first works best. kindly Tria